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*rankie24
writes:My boyfriend decided to go back to his ex as they have a child, but his ex doesn't want him back do I ask him back out or do I leave it?
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reader, Frankie24 +, writes (2 December 2007):
Frankie24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thank you all who replied, day 2 of being split has some what been alot easier ive done the necessary changes in my life i.e changed my number in order to stop him from contacting me definitely out of site out of mind and yes he doesnt deserve me.Thanks a lot you guys x
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (2 December 2007):
 Psht, don't give him the honor of coming back to you. He left YOU for another girl. Don't take him back - especially don't ASK for him to come back. If he comes back at all, it should be crawling on his hands and knees asking for forgiveness.
Don't give him permission to "yo yo" (as 'anonymous' put it). Respect yourself, hold your head high and keep your dignity. Find a guy who is completely devoted to you and treats you as you ought to be treated.
Good luck, sweetness and stay strong.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Are you saying he he dumped you to go back to his ex gf? Aren't you a bit pissed off that he did that to you? I mean I can understand that he wants to be a part of his child's life and he wants to fulfill his parental obligation. But...he could've still been an awesome, loving, attentive Dad, and stayed with you in the first place. It's done with millions of couples, globally. The kid played a small part in his decision to go back. Sounds like he wanted her, too. So with that in mind...you need to face the truth that the ex gf took a higher priority here, over his feelings for you. Stop settling for this guy who overlooked you to go back to his ex gf. He hurt you, he left you. Do not ask him out. Leave him alone. What message are you telling him, that no matter how he treats you...you will be waiting for him. Nah...let him think about what he has done to you. And learn to be stronger and not let your 'heartfelt' feelings guide your common sense here from now on. Sometimes females, want the security of a relationship so badly, they forget to notice the quality of the guy. You have the right to be loved, respected and cherished...hold out for the guy that will give you that. This current guy is a huge liability in your life...why have him in your life when you'll always wondering when he'll pull the pin again.. Quite frankly, it ain't worth it dear. And if you are feeling empty right now...fill it up with giving, growth, learning and creating...but don't take this cad back.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (1 December 2007):
 Definately leave it Frankie. Maintain some dignity for yourself. He made a choice - and so did she. Now you make one as well. If you bend you will find that people walk all over you. Hold your head up and respect yourself.Might be a bit of pain in the short term, but definately the right thing to do in the long term as the dignity feeds further into your inner self and confidence making you a better person.
Take care
Richard
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): no way! i mean you need to think about it if he wanted to go back to his ex, to be with his son then he obiously has shown that he still has feelings for his ex...leave it a while and if he comes back then he comes back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): No just leave it. I mean if he broke up with you to go back out with his ex, it doesn't really matter whether she took him back or not. The point is that he dumped you and for someone else. There is no reason why you should forgive him for that or want to take him back.
You should be more proud. His ex surely is that is probably why he wants her back now.
If you want to ask him out go ahead but he is going to have no respect for you and by doing that you are going to lose respect for yourself whether you realise it or not. Furthermore, you can do so much better.
Be strong and LOVE yourself. When you love yourself, it is so easy to say "to hell with him" because you will not settle for being treated that way and you always know you can do better. So start loving yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): LEAVE IT!
he can't yo yo between girls
until he finds the one that will take him.
you need someone who wants you and YOU only.
he'll only wander off everytime a better opportunity comes along.
you deserve whaaaay more.
xx
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