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writes:I have been briefly seeing a guy which started as friendship and we have been friends on FB. He last messaged me to ask how I was at the beginning of April. He last acknowledged me by text two weeks ago when I decided to tell him that if I had met him when he was younger I may have not been attracted to him as I was now. He found it funny but said he was loveable then as well. He commented on fb status of mine last week so when I text him at the end of the week I was quite surprised at the text I got back. I said 'morning trouble how are you' as we liked a laugh together. His response was 'who is this'. My immediate thought was he had taken offence at my last text and had deleted my number so I just text back and apologised saying I must have wrong number. Should I assume from this that he has lost interest and he has deleted my number even though we are still friends on FB (his last comment on FB to me was after I said he looked more attractive now and his comment on fb was a jokey one). I don't want to make a rash decision but wondering whether its best to cancel the social media contact with hi!m or see what happens before I do anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2020): An update for you. It turns out he knows my neighbour and bumped into him at a shop and when my neighbour saw me he said 'Dave says Hi'. I went onto fb today and he had unfriended me so I spoke to the neighbour again who thought it was odd that he had done that and said what he had said to him was 'can you let Jane know I won't be doing the same thing as her anymore so won't see her around anymore so say hi to her for me'. What a strange way to end thigs and quite hurtful as well. I may still bump into him as he lives not too far away so going to find that awkward as well. Best to block him now he has made it clear?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2020): Thank you everyone. He had pursued me in the beginning so I know he was definitely attracted to me. I haven't heard from him for a week so I am assuming he has found someone new or worst case not been telling me something. It's sad that he couldn't tell me but maybe that shows what he is truly like. I won't text him again, no point and will delete him now and move on.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (23 April 2020):
 Maybe he has a girlfriend/wife and SHE asked the question?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2020): Leave it alone. Don't jump to conclusions.
I don't advise you to send anyone another message after receiving a message asking me to identify myself; when I know I had the right number. He's a grown-man. He had the opportunity to express it, if he took offense. Not just delete you without a word. Then pretend he doesn't recognize who you are. It's adding insult to injury. Sit tight, and wait. Who knows, he may already have a girlfriend! Who might have found your messages!
Wait and see if you hear from him first. If you don't, your suspicions are confirmed. Delete his number, block him from your social media contacts, and move on.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 April 2020):
 I'd probably just leave it be, for now.
I wouldn't delete him or his number.
I think IF he mean the "who is this?" as a joke and you didn't respond, he would have sent another text, so maybe it either wasn't him texting? or you texted the wrong number, or he has had your number deleted and he didn't recognize it.
So as you can see there are a lot of options here.
However, You told a guy that you were attracted to him. He didn't respond in kind, he just found it funny. So... he might not BE as interested as you.
Lastly, are you sure he is single?
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reader, kenny +, writes (23 April 2020):
 As you said that you both liked a joke together he may have been messing around by saying who is this. He must of known it was you surely as he would have recognised your banter. If you have him on whats app, when someone removes you their profile picture disapears.
I would maybe send one more text leaning more to the serious side and less banter. If nothing comes of this then this will confirm that he did indeed delete you, and you can move on.
Good luck.
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