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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My current LDR's brother's wife has just hinted to me that my boyfriend was cheating with his ex while he was dating me a year ago. My LDR boyfriend's brother recently got married and I traveled to visit during the wedding and got to know his brother's fiance/wife. She's always been a very sweet and gentle person but we just never had a chance to get to know each other. This time during the week I was there for their wedding we became closer.Her and I were chatting today and she hinted that my LDR boyfriend was cheating with his ex during the first year that we were together, but he has stopped now. She told me that when my boyfriends siblings found out they were very upset with him. She did say that he has stopped contacf with his ex now. I felt that she had wanted to tell me this while I was there but never had the chance.Should I ask her for more details or ask my boyfriend to confirm it? Or should I just let it go?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 March 2016):
 Talk to him and let him explain. My guess is they figured you deserved the truth. It's up to you what you do now but I would be dumping him and showing him he cannot treat women like that. He obviously has no respect for you or his ex when he two timed you both. You deserve better.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 March 2016):
 You really ought to leave his family out of things... and sit down to a real, honest heart-to-heart with LDR.
Bringing a family (member(s)) in to your's and his goings-on is a pretty bad idea....
Good luck...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 March 2016):
 I wouldn't grill her any more. She has given you the info, now it's up to you what you want to do with it.
IF he indeed DID cheat that whole year, do you still want to be with him regardless? IF so, looking for more info from her is pointless.
If you aren't sure, TALK to him. HE is your partner. Don't have to tell him where you got the info from, but my advice is if you DO NOT talk to him about this it will be the proverbial elephant in the room until you do.
Personally I'd confront him and dump him. I could NOT "forgive" a partner for cheating on me for a whole year. LDR or not. Doesn't matter. Either he was committed to you or he wasn't. And in your case, well he wasn't.
I really DO NOT see the point in being with someone who for a WHOLE year is screwing around thinking you will never know so it's OK. That is shoddy morals.
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