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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I really love my boyfriend so much, we've been together for 4 months and i want to marry him, i dont know what to do about it, shall i ask him to marry me or shall i wait for him to ask me, or has it not been long enough for me to ask him yet? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 It all depends if he is ready to get married.
Do you feel that he is ready for you?
It is not wrong to ask him to marry you .
There are no set rules in marriage.
You do what you feel is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): um...waiting would be a good idea. 4 months is a very short amount of time. If you two are meant to be together you will be anyway, so what's the rush?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): This is the funniest posting I have read yet. Four months?? Yes ask him.... Ha ha ha ha...No sorry. Only ask him if you want him to break off with you.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 Hi,
If you want to guarantee to drive a wooden stake into the pulsing heart of your relationship then ask him to marry you. If someone gave you this idea I would advise you to never take advice from this person again. 4 months into the relationship and aged 18-21? marriage is simply not on the cards for any guy at this age and situation in life.
Guys are very reluctant to get married so soon into a relationship and moreover, you are still so young. I can only see one outcome if you ask him to marry you, he will run. Sorry.
Why don't you just enjoy each others company for now and in a couple of years once the honeymoon period is over and you have settled down a bit more, you will know if he is the one.
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reader, AppleBottomJeans +, writes (31 March 2008):
If youre in love with each other n you think its what you both want then go for it! stranger things have happened! good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): Great answers provided.
The male point of view. Your age group reminds me when I was that age; not at all ready for marriage. First, as mentioned, do you both get along in many aspects of the relationship: negotiating differences of wants and needs?
Are you both employed and making enough to support a household together. Planning on having kids soon? Then one partner able to handle the financial obligation for the family.
Do you both openly and honestly talk about each others feelings and support and provide for those needs?
To do it right, without stress, the above, among other things, should be considered and discussed.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 What's your rush? Most guys will indeed run for cover if this was mentioned after only 4 months of dating! Relax and just go with the flow. Enjoy the process of getting to really know someone. This is always an exciting time in a relatioship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): well I think you should wait if he is the one then he will be around so dont go and jump your self out there you haven't seen nothing yet you need to go through some hard times to see if he is the one because ever one is not built for the hard times that will come good luck!
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reader, Jmo +, writes (31 March 2008):
 Before you bring it up to him (and I suggest you don't) you need to ask YOURSELF why you're in such a hurry to get married. Four months is not a very long period of time.
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reader, Rolly +, writes (31 March 2008):
After 4 months, you're still in the "honeymoon" period. It is FAR too soon, no matter how serious your relationship is. Please wait a couple of years minimum, or wait until he asks you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): If you ask him he'll probably get scared and run away. Do not even bring it up. You're too young and 4 months is not nearly long enough. Wait at least 2 years.
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