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writes:There is this one guy I'm interested in he often sends off mixed signals about his feelings towards me. So I've been thinking about either telling him I like him or ask him out to test the waters. but Im not so sure if I should be the one asking him out or be the first to show interest or not.This may seem like an odd question but the country I'm residing in now still holds the 'boy asks girl out' kind of value and confessions are extremely rare, people almost always never tell their crush they're interested; they're really shy and bashful when it comes to dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2014): You should try to talk to this guy first and get to know him better, try talking things out and ask a few question about him and stuff
Then gradually move up to hanging out outside of school, talking online and then ask him out for a date...but try and not use the word date or he may get nervous and say no
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2014): i don't think there's anything wrong with telling a crush how you feel. girls can do it too, but you are right, it is quite rare. but if you're worried, about confessing then just don't do it face to face. give signs.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (18 February 2014):
 You will Miss out being.cultured and close mouths dont get feed really. I would just put it out there you like him and go from there. If he takes the bait you win if not you might just want to ask him out it happens all the time even though its weird feeling in doing especially with traditional gender roles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2014):
I think it's best if he 'asks' you . Guy like good chase so give him one , you can however drop big hints.
Be flirty but never dirrty ..
Wear you best outfit do your hair and face .. I always find when I get dressed up I'm more in control haha when he looks at you, tip your head to one side, smile and look coy .. It drives guys crackers when he asks ' what you sming at ' just say with alight laugh 'stuff' of course he will get intrigued lol he will probably say what stuff .
Laugh and say well spend time with me and I might say haha .
It's not asking him out on a date it's getting him to ask you ..
Box clever sweetie
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (17 February 2014):
Dear OP,
Even here, we still have the "boy asks girl out" rule. And people (in my area) are shy. So I can relate to this question, I know it's uncommon and must feel a little weird.
However - this is also a great chance to stand out! If you really have the guts to make the first move, I bet this guy is going to be impressed. And even if he's not, you can be so proud of yourself for being more courageous and creative than your environment.
Maybe you can try and not ask him out too bluntly, but test the waters first. Start a conversation with him and find out if you have a mutual interest, e.g. you like the same coffee place, or music band, or he is good at something you need help with. To ask for help with a little problem is also quite effective, because you can offer to invite him to dinner or at least to buy him a coffee "in return" for the favor.
Good luck!
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