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26-29,
*jrocks101
writes:Um, I use to be in this young relationship and I am parable way younger than you. But I need help, I went out with this guy, he was really nice, caring and protective about me. But he was getting bulled by other boy's in our year and I felt like he was pushing away from me because of that. And being forced to go to fast in the relationship and he was too scared to huge me or even kiss me on the cheek. So I took lead of everything I would huge him, I even had the guts to kiss him! I think I couldn't ever do that. Once at a party he said he can't dance in front of anyone. He was really on a high of sager and he huge me a lot at the party and then he dance with me. But then I through maybe now he will always huge and not be scared, but that didn't happen he went to his scared old self. Well a week before the holidays he said "can I start hang out my friends more?" I said "yer! But can you hang around me sometimes?" and he didn't say anything. After the holidays he did talked to me and he he use to wait for me after school finish, but he stopped doing that too. Then he even stopped hanging around with me! I got angry, some of my friends said "he did like me anymore" and saying "I should dump him!" and I don't know why but I started to believe them so I dumped him! That day I asked "him are you angry with me?" I wanted him to be a bit sad because I through that meant he acted liked me! But he said "no" then I did a stupid thing I said "can we be friends?" and he said "yes" Then a couple of weeks later my best friend told me at a party "my ex's mum told her he has been crying himself to sleep at night!" then I felt really bad! So a couple weeks ago I asked a friend of mine to ask me out again and he said maybe so should I go out with him again or do you think he is not worth it? And if he is over me how can I get over him? Everyone makes out it's so easy to get over boys and Because I am scared he will just let me do everything again if i take him back! I hope you can help me!tjrocks101
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): It sounds to me like the bullying is getting to him, he is probably being teased about having a girlfriend and is having a hard time figuring out how to deal with it.
Maybe you should try to talk to him about what is going on with him in general, tell him he seems sad and see if he will tell you what is bothering him. If he is afraid of being teased for having a girlfriend, let him know you are still interested but see if there is a way you can meet up or be affectionate with each other when his friends are not around until he feels more confident to show affection in front of them.
Chances are, the friends don't have girlfriends and feel strange and so they tease him. With time, the situation will change, they will become interested in other girls and suddenly it will be cool to have a girlfriend.
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