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writes:I've been seeing a guy for around 6mths and he's recently left his wife. The last 6 weeks have been hell. He's completely changed. Last week he said he needed some space to sort things out and his divorce etc, he said he loved me and that once everything was sorted he'd focus on me - He said we were still very much together. However a few days afetr he told me this I stupidly got drunk and went to his house, just cos I was missing him, only thing is it was 1am and he had to go to work. He wasn't happy needless to say. the next day he text saying it was over and that he didn't love me anymore. The past week he won't return my texts or talk to me. how after 2 days can he no longer love me? Do you think there will ever be a chance with him again in the future after he's had some time to himself or am i just kidding myself? I really love him and we both wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and no this? I'm going to see him next week as I want answeres and explanations to certain things any suggestions as to what I should ask him about? Should I ask him if there may be a chance in the future once his head is back in play? help me please!!!!!!
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reader, hmcm +, writes (22 February 2010):
sweetie i know its hard ive been having the same crap for 4 years with a man who keeps changing his mind i know its very hard but back of big time you wont gain respect by chasing him men can be very good a saying thingd at the time then changing there mind when us woman tend to believe what they say then end up feeling badly hurt and let down when they dont live up to there remarks you obviously have a good heart so give it to someone you dont have to worry about if they want to be in your life or not
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 How after 2 days he can no longer love you? - Well, if he is like me, having just gotten out of a marriage he would feel better to stay at more or less the same level and not go back to irresponsibility, and/or getting drunk. Supposing he's been there once, at some point; but a married person is hopefully more responsible than that and has other things to look forward to. I'm sorry but this is the impression you gave. But everyone makes mistakes and you can't undo what happened. But who knows what he actually thinks about all of this. He could even make you feel guilty about your mistake to have more power over you in case he wants you back again later. I don't know what kind of person he is. Generally it isn't a very good idea to get involved with a recent divorcee. Many need some time in order to get their life back on track and put their ideas in order. Unless the marriage was in a dead-end point for long and the divorce was just a pending formality, he is likely confused and has to sort out his life and future. He is already not answering your calls and messages so if you really want to ask for another chance you may want to take all these into account and not insist. Also, don't be very harsh on yourself. Your mistake is part of growing up. And breaking up by text? What a character himself. That shows he doesn't care too much about you. I would advise moving on. All the best.
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