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writes:my boyfriends mum has died recently i never got to meet her the funeral is tomorrow and i dont know if he wants me to go with him im to scared to ask him as since her death i have not really seen him i just dont know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 I think it would be great of you to offer. Say something along the lines of, "if you'd like the support, I'd be happy to go, but if you need some alone time and want to go to this by yourself that's okay too."
The important part is that you make your boyfriend feel like you are there for him unconditionally and give him the choice of whether or not he'd like you to be there. Don't be offended if he wants to go solo to his mother's funeral - let him grieve and deal with this in his own way.
Be there for him, give him a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to and someone to love.
Good luck and my condolences.
xxIndia
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reader, rockelle +, writes (30 October 2007):
 I think you should go as a sign of support. Let him know that you are there. If you and he haven't been together that long I wouldn't go with him. But attend to pay your respects even though you have never met the mom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): offer - its a nice gesture and shows that you care about him.if he says no - simply let him know that your there for him regardless.Make sure you don't make plans for tomorrow or Thursday just in case he decides that he wants company.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): I suppose it depends to a certain extent on how long you've been together. If it's been a long-term thing, then I would ask him if he needs your support.
If it's only been a few weeks, wait for him to ask you, or if you know any other close relatives of his you could ask them to ask him on your behalf.
Phil
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