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writes:I met a friend of a friend "Tom" during a on/off relationship (5 years) with "rick". "Tom" pursued me, but I had "rick" baggage and was blind to how great "tom" is. After a few years, we've kept in touch and I'm all done with "rick". We all went out (mutual friend included) and had a great time. They spoke briefly about how he was in a horrible relationship at the moment. Later, he invited me for a drink and friendly catching up. I went and had more fun than I've ever had and am now realizing my mistake of 3 years. After a long hug goodnight and a few longing gazes, he said he really wants to do this again. The mutual friend says go for it, convince him to dump the girl (all's fair in love and war), but I'm not that kind of person. Should I let him know I'm interested but will back off because he has a girlfriend and will respect his decision?. Or should I keep it under wraps and accept the fact that I missed out on a good thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): Thanks guys! I appreciate the advice I think I'll start figuring out an email
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reader, fishdish +, writes (7 December 2007):
 i think expressing interest and yet respect for the relationship is reasonable, it's not that much of an encroachment on the relationship and it's taking everyone into consideration, which is good to yourself too!
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reader, sexyhunnibbe001  +, writes (7 December 2007):
 i'd see what the relationship between "tom" and his girlfriend is.
if it is going rough maybe talk to him and see how he feels bout it.
if it is going smoothly then just accept that you missed out as cruel as it sounds.
hope i helped :)
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good luck!
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