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writes: I know he loves me, but... he just won't say. We've been going out for almost 2.5 years. We're both divorced and neither of us want more kids (ours from previous marrages are grown). I light up when he's around. He makes my heart sing. He says he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship ever again. He divorced in 1996 and wants to be single forever. I divorced in 2002 and would like to live with him. I finally told him I love you. He smiled and said "Oh wow. Thank you." His actions show me that loves me, he just won't say it. Is it better to have a man say I love you and not act like it's true or for a man to act like he loves you and not say it??
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reader, shania  +, writes (19 December 2005):
 I think eventually,you are going to want more from him but i cant see him delivering.He said he doesnt want to be in a committed relationship again,so that includes you.You told him that you loved him but he didnt respond back and told you that he loved you,so my guess is he dont.Really he is keeping you at arms length in which he is comfortable with.He enjoys your company no doubt,but i fear his lack of committment to you does seem worrying.Have you asked,whether he loves you or not? He might show kindness and affection but dont confuse that with love.I think you should have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him what you want from this relationship,if his attitude is some what vague,then really you will have to decide whether you want this kind of relationship,where he has the calling card.Personally, i think you know what the answer is going to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2005): the hard truth is this: He's just not that into you. If he wanted to be with you and in a committed relationship with you, then he would be telling you daily he loves you and doing all he can to make you happy! Move on and don't waste any more of your precious life on this man!
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reader, kellyO +, writes (18 December 2005):
 Hi dearie, U have to ask yourself what u really want in a relationship. This guy obviously have feelings for you but he doesnt want to commit. That is the reason he isnt confessing his love for you.
The choice is yours really.If u want more to the relationship then tell him, if he doesnt then its will be wise to move on. but if u are happy with the way things then stay and enjoy yourself.
I wish u all the best and relax all will be well.
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