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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I need to know if I have pursued this guy too much or if I'm ok. I want to be a bit of a challenge for this guy, I want HIM to pursue me but I'm not sure how this whole pursuing thing works. He was the first to ask for my number, first to text me but i was the first to call him, after that hes usually the one who calls first (but only like once a wk) Ive called a couple times (its been 4 months) we havent seen eachother (met thru friends) I was the first to ask him to "hang out" He's usually the first to initiate a conversation with me.I told him im too busy for a relationship right now, (its the truth but it was also to show him that Im not pursuing him) He's wiling to come all the way to my town to see me, (im not going there) Have I pursued too much? Am I not a challenge? Sometimes, when Im really busy, I don't go online for a whole week, then he calls me on the weekends to see how im doing, I dont feel like Im "too available" for him but he's not "too available" either. I just heard that when a girl pursues the guy, he doesnt care about her as much as when a guy pursues a girl...I want this guy to really want me. But its hard to just sit back, i mean its not ALL bad b/c he does keep coming back. What do u think of the situation? whose pursuing who? am i ok? or should I back off more?
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reader, xoxladyrellyxox +, writes (23 August 2009):
Honey guys are stupid they will not get the hits you give him until you tell them that you do want to go out once you've don't that then train him tell him its ok even thought your the girl and feel like he should ask you out believe me he want to he just doesn't want to be rejected by you go for it and tell me how it want ill get you through it my email is [email address blocked] don't be scared
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