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writes:Should a guy still be a gentleman? Should i open car doors, Pay for dinner, Give compliments or write poetry?Or should i go down the pub while my girlfriend stays home and iron my clothes and gets ready to "Give me some" when i get home? I try to do the former, but the guys who are the later seem to get all the girls? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): I wasn't necessarily saying that i have to write poetry, i certainly don't consider myself "effeminate" I just thought it made a nice "Valentines" gift, when i wrote a poem for my (now EX) girlfriend, seems she felt i was to "Easy" not "Manly" enough? if that means not being an "A....hole" and treating like dirt (as her new boyfriend does) then that's me. I live by the motto "Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you" it's just hard to find a girl who trusts that i'm being genuine and not just "acting" to get laid, and that has enough confidence in herself, to believe that someone could feel that way about her
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): personally.. I wouldnt want poetry, I'd rather have a McDonalds brought to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): There are all different types of girls. Some like neanderthal idiots, and some like to be treated like a lady. Really though, I think these days women are so much more independent that some can be offended if men are overly 'gentlemanly'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): to answer bluntly yes you should act like gentleman but i don't think you get what that means. It's not waiting on a woman every hand and foot aevery day, no. It's more about respecting girls which is what a lot of girls prefer next to a guy who only wants to have sex and club. If all you want is sex then by all means, be a jerk and be a bad boy, but if you truly want a real relationship, being a gentleman, a real gentleman goes a long way
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): If you ask women, they'll tell you they'd love a real gentleman. But if you actually try it, you'll discover that they find that they're much more excited by men who don't do any such thing.
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reader, hello1  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 Sounds pretty good for me! and not all girls like the bad guys, I wouldn't put up with a man who went off the pub all night and came home expecting some. Um no way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): Of course you should!
I know it's not in the psyche of the Australian male to behave that way, especially if the Fosters ads are anything to go by, but it won't do you any harm.
If your 'Sheila' is a Lady, acting like a 'Bruce' instead of a Gentleman won't get you very far in the long run.
I'm not so sure about writing poetry though - that might be seen as somewhat effeminate - you don't have to go THAT far!!
Phil
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (9 December 2007):
 you should be yourself. forget what other guys do, they are not important, and those in the later section rarely keep a girl for long if they treat them like that.
Women love a gentleman, as long as its not one you can walk all over, women need to have a few boundries or it gets boring.
So find somewhere in the middle, be a gentleman, but a tiny bit of a bad boy too, think james bond or zoro lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): Maybe you should be yourself rather than trying to be like some kind of ideal that doesn't actually exist?
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