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writes: I am finding I have feelings that are growing for an older female within my work place. I have worked with her for about a year now and she is 32 and I am 19. She is married with 4 kids but I have real feelings for her. I don't know if she has any feelings for me or not but her marriage is not the best in the world. What should I do? Help!!!!999 Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2006): I personally do not think this a good idea for you to pursue this relationship, there are too many things that can go wrong and terribly wrong.I think age plays a major role in this situation. A decade ago you were in primary school. At your age you do not need the pressures of family life and the possible terrible consequences that can develop from this situation. You have not had chance to explore yourself and the world around you. I do not doubt the strong attraction and possibly "love " you have for her. I can speak from experience it is much better that you create your own relationship which carries no baggage.Life is too short for you to become embroileed in such a mine field. Are you prepared to devastate the lives of potentially six people? YOU ARE TOO YOUNG -GO AND SEEK AND LIVE LIFE. YOU'RE JUST AT THE BEGINNING OF A WONDERFUL JOURNEY DO NOT TRIP UP AT LIFES MANY HURDLESI work with young people aged (16-21years) particularly with life and social skills and I have seen many "train crashes" along with a fair degree of sucesses.My advise to you is to build and create your own relationship as did her husband, and keep her as a good friend. Take this advise and it is likely to save years of emotional agony and torment for you and the individual memebers of the family concerned. Life is a gamble, but over the long run you are LIKELY to end up the loser. Its tough but I hope you make the right choice GOOD LUCK lllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll
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reader, Kate O Sullivan +, writes (31 March 2005):
Age doesn't matter. Follow your heart, but you could end getting up hurt. Be careful with the way you come on to her. She is married. Try to be a friend. That's always how a relationship starts (a least good ones).I was in your shoes 3 years ago but it worked out for me. It doesn't always work out. Whatever you do Good Luck from a real Irish Person!!!
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