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writes: I used to go out with this girl, I was in love with her, hut she wasn't into me. One night we ended on her kitchen floor and I started caressing her hair and arm, i realized she got excited when I was doing that but she turned me down at that spot. She gave a speech about hoe she love me, about she doesn't want to lose me, but that there's Something that she should have done time ago, about not seeing me anymore. When she said those words, it was painful to hear, but I left my feelings for her to blind me. We kept going for a few more months, but I stopped keeping in touch with her for like a month, she txt me once and even that I was nice in the reply, I completely stopped any kind of contact with her. I even blocked her from Facebook. She txt me not long ago asking me if I was the one sending flowers to her job, i told her no, but she told me she was scared. I acted cold, like I didn't care, indo but i don't want her to see that. I know is healthier for me to be away from her. And my question here is: I should ask her to delete my contact information from her cell phone? Or if I ask her that I will show that I'm hurt?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (1 March 2016):
 I don't see the point in asking her to delete your phone number from her contact list. This just opens up a conversation you're not up for having. She'll ask why you can't just be friends and tell you how selfish you're being (when really it's her who is being selfish).
This will all just set you back.
Block any means she has of contacting you. If she hasn't the maturity to understand that this is the best thing for both of you then she's no friend at all.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 March 2016):
 Block her from your phone, she is just playing mind games, she wants you to see that she is wanted. She wants attention from you, yet she doesn't actually want to be with you. You don't need her drama in your life. She is the sort of woman that swallows men up, uses them then spits them out but hopes they will stay around to show her some attention. Call your phone company have her number blocked and move on with your life.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 March 2016):
 I think she is playing head-games. Asking about flowers is her way of telling you that someone else is interested, but she is putting a spin on it, like "she is scared". She has told you in no uncertain terms that she isn't interested so let her go. STOP being someone she can lean on for dramatic effect.
And if I were you, I'd BLOCK and DELETE her phone number. You blocked her on social media, so why not on the phone too?
And I get that rejection hurts, so brush off yourself and move on. She is only one woman.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (1 March 2016):
I would simply delete her contact information and block her from contacting me. I don't think you have to explain why.
But I don't see why you shouldn't ask her either if that's what you want to do. If your intention is never to have anything to do with her again, why does it matter if she thinks you're hurt or not....
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (1 March 2016):
 Hon, I don't think you need to have any further contact with her.. She clearly is not into you.
You need to move on with your life.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (1 March 2016):
 I wouldn't worry about asking her to do that . Instead, Next time, if there is a next time and depending on the content of the txt, if it is a question similar to the flower one a simple no and leave it at that. If it is in a more casual friendly nature, as in catching up kind of thing, don't even respond. This is about self preservation, you owe her nothing
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