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writes:How can I comfort my girlfriend ?My girlfriend is pregnant with our first child. She's about 5 months along. She's been really scared the last couple months. I don't know why I tried asking her but she won't talk to me. She cries to sleep almost every night. I ask her if she's ok she still won't talk to me. How can I comfort her ? What should I say to her ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella +, writes (3 March 2016):
 Hi
It seems that your girlfriend is more emotional than most people. Though sometimes her crying may be due to discomfort or illness.
But being pregnant is a big life change. And it does seem overwhelming for some, some of the time.
If you and your girlfriend can agree on the value of some Cognitive Behavioural therapy it may help to strengthen her emotionally.
Some of the aspects of pregnancy are indeed tiring, especially if morning sickness is an issue. For some the morning sickness is on-going.
There are times as a parent when there are some real emergencies that a parent needs to get through. When the parent has to remain calm and strong, no matter how scared the child is feeling.
There will be times in the future when crying as a first response may not be the best response.
Some training in Emotional Intelligence could really pay dividends for your girlfriend, the child the two of you are bringing into the world and as a means to improve her emotional strength when dealing with all the issues that will arise once the baby arrives.
There are several free EQ tests you can find online.
There is a lot of pressure on you, because of course you would worry when your GF cries when she feels over-whelmed.
Gently help deflect the situation with some constructive comments that look at the real situation.
If that does not work then some counselling may help and result in a happier girl friend and a calmer home situation. That will be needed when the baby arrives, so best to prepare for that eventuality now.
My Best wishes to you for the baby you and your girlfriend are expecting
Regards
Abella
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 March 2016):
 She cries a lot, apparently: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/girlfriend-had-bad-dream-how-can-i-comfort.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-was-my-girlfriend-crying-during-sex.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/girlfriend-had-bad-dream-how-can-i-comfort.html
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 March 2016):
 You can't make her open up to you, but you can be there for her. Hug and kiss her when she is upset, tell her you love her, that you are there to support and look after her. She might not be willing to open up about what she is scared off, but as long as she knows you are there to support her through this that might be all she needs.
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reader, linzey  +, writes (1 March 2016):
 tell her what she whants to hear.remind her of all your special moments with each other every time she cries just keep reminding her . good luck
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