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writes:My mother and I had a big row recently and she ran out of the house saying she couldn't cope anymore and wouldn't be coming back. I was horrified by my Dad's detachment of it all. He had a weird grin on his face and was saying how it had mucked up his plans to do DIY that weekend! I told him that there was the slightly more important issue that my mother had left the house in a state and that in that state there was the possibility she could do something silly. She had never done this before so it was completely out of character and yet my Dad didn't seem remotely phased by it and seemed annoyed at how inconvenienced he had been. I always thought my Dad had a big selfish streak but had no idea it was to this degree!After a few hours, I was starting to think that maybe we ought to phone around friends and then consider phoning the police. Happily, my Mum has now turned up and we have patched things up.However, I am still horrified by my Dad's lack of interest in my Mum's welfare and how this episode inconvenienced his DIY plans! I am absolutely staggered by his attitude and am not sure how to react to it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): I am the original poster of the question. The thing is this episode was totally out of character for my Mum. She is normally the most caring, selfless person ever yet this seemed to be the straw that broke the camel's back. As it was so out of character I suppose I just expected my Dad to have some sort of reaction as this was far from a normal reaction from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): You have no way of knowing what goes on in their relationship day to day. It may just be his way of coping with someone he sees as a drama queen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Yes this is rather odd. All I can suggest is that maybe your mother has done this kind of things before that you dont know about and he just thinks it doesnt matter when she runs off because she will come back in the end.Not a great attitude but it seems to be one your father feels nonetheless.
Another is that he really is very selfish and didnt care.However Id prefer to go with the first idea as it seems more likely.
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