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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My wife and i have always had a fairly exciting sex life. A while ago whilst talking dirty during sex we decided she should have sex with another man. Well to be honest it was my idea, as it was something i'd fantasied about!We discussed it for a while and decided to go through with it. She has since had sex with several men, more often than not without me present, but sometimes watching.The thing is, I love it. It turns me on so much to know she is having sex with another man, preferably a fit, good looking guy who gives her a great time. Does this seem wierd?The only problem is, sometimes she feels I am palming her off, rather than having sex wit her myself. This is totally not true, as i love her dearly and find her incredibly sexy. I just really really enjoy her having sex with other men. I always want sex with her myself after, which she wants too.I'd be interested to get both mens and womens opinions on this.Update, after thinking more on this I feel it may partly be due to her having a higher sex drive than me. Sometimes she seems like she just needs sex, and I am just a toy that is there. Maybe I feel that if she is using other guys for sex, she's having sex with me because she wants to, not because I'm there. She is generally happy with the arrangement, as long as I reassure her I still want her and am not getting rid because I can't be bothered.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry, was really not trying to be boastful and say everything is great. It crops up a lot that she feels i am palming her off. I don't know how to convince her that I'm not. Sometimes she is ok with this but a lot of the time she feels I am getting rid. Like I said I do want her, she just has a need for sex more often than me. I know this sounds like a man's dream, but its actually causing us problems. The only way she seems to feel I want her is when we do have sex, but if we don't for a few days its hard to convince her i still want her. We work shifts so sometimes work opposite shifts and can get quite tired.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 If it makes you both happy, then there's really no problem. Like the anon poster below said, make sure she's happy with the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): if you are both happy with this it is fine, but i think you should ask your wife if she is okay with it. I think she just wants to make you happy. i hope that helped :)
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