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writes:There is a girl i like who has started seeing someone recently. Turns out she actually likes me back.What can i do seeing she has started seeing someone else? I dont want to chase her away from this other guy as i wouldnt like that happening to me. Does anyone have any advice on what i should do? Appreciate your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, skye +, writes (28 August 2007):
 I agree with samohir. If you arent truely certain that this girl likes you, why dont you simply ask her? The best way to do that is to just tell her of your feelings. Dont put any pressure on her, simply make her aware that you would be interested in her romantically and would like a relationship with her.
If you are totally certain that she is aware of your feelings for her, then your choices are limited for she has chosen another man. Like you say it would be unfair to create a "love triangle" if she wants to stay with him.
Only once she is fully aware of your feelings for her can she make her choice.
Her current relationship is in its infancy and you arent asking her to dump her boyfriend. You are simply making her aware that you like her. She will surely be very flattered no matter what her decision turns out to be. If she decides not to date this other man anymore, your conscience will be clear.
Depending upon the circumstances, it might be a difficult decision for her to make, so I would suggest that you simply make her aware of your position and leave it for her to decide. If she chooses you ....then that is great! However, she might decide to stay with her current guy. If she does, then my advice would be to accept her decision and move on.
If she really wants to be with you as much as you want to be with her then I can see no reason why you cant be together.
Please make sure she knows your feelings for her.
Best wishes,
Skye
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reader, samohir  +, writes (28 August 2007):
 I think the big question should be Does she realy likes you Back? If she does and you like also, i dont see any reason why not would it happen. Somethimes people do not know what they want till some point,and than they usualy make a decision about the trace they want to go and place they want to be.Seems your gf hasnt made one yet, or she might be insecure about you/or the other guy accepting her completely.So,You must decide if you realy want her back. Once you make such decision,just be Open and feel free to tell her! That will solve her insecurity if she has one and will help her make her decision with whom she wants to be. Ask her to make and tell you about her decision, suerly you dont want to share it with other guy/s and would be painful for the other guy as u told. That will be my advice. Good Luck
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