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writes:since my entrance in to the university, i haven't being too friendly to girls in our department of study. Recently there is this girl in our class i've started chatting with. Anytime we sit together she's will be so close enough to me that our body do touch each other.when we talk even while standing she does listen keenly and if i say something funny she'll laugh and embrace me hold my hands. She likes sitting in class with me, reading with me. Whenever we are sitting together, her friends will blink at her and she'll tell them am her boyfriend in a playing manner. There's a time we were ask to read a drama in class together for we usually sit together. When i started reading some of her friends laughed, she responded to me that they are jelous of us. We continued and our lecturer recommended me that i read fluently and am having a very deep loud voice why some of them did laugh and the lecturer told them am a real man and the girl told me its good that she likes it that it shows signs of maturity. Guys do come for her and she's friendly with them. Sometimes when her friends come to shake me she'll unconsciously remove my hand as if she's playing. And i've started liking her for she's intelligent and she gives me motivational advice and forcing me to attend lectures all the time even if am tired. My problem is guys around her she's friendly to makes me she's flirting. I don't know if i meet and tell her my mind she'll accept to date me.please i need ur help before taking a decision. Sincere and kind advice needed from experts and most espercially ladies.thanks for your corporation. Good experts,benevolent people, i need your attention please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): Being bashful and not being the aggressor between the two of you is not letting her know how interested you are. If you want to stay in "friend-zone," continue doing what you're doing.She sits close, she touches, she tells her friends you're her boyfriend playfully. Does she have to hold up a sign and tell you she likes you... and when will you finally man-up and ask her out?You are a grown man. If you were a teen I would understand the bashfulness; because you would be socially awkward and coming of age. This isn't the case. You classify her out-going and friendly nature as flirtations to every male around her.I hope you never say that to her. That is slightly insulting. Even if it's true, it's not nice to say out loud.In this case, you're sitting back; while a lady has made all the first moves. You still aren't picking up the signals? Or are you pretending you're not sure, because you don't know what to do next? If you like her, you better make a move soon! Some other guy is going to come along, and snatch her right out from under your nose.Ask her out for a coffee date, as an excuse to get her alone. It's a way to have an innocent one on one chat to confirm if she is just being friendly, or actually wants to date. Too many spectators are sitting around you in class. They're making you uncomfortable, and you're afraid she will reject you in front of them. I don't think that will happen. Just over-come your shyness and take a chance. She sounds like a very sweet girl, and she won't shoot you down. If a woman likes a guy and gives him an opening to approach her, and he misses the chance; he will be relegated to the "friend-zone." Her approach has been subtle, but quite effective. She's a real lady. Your lack of confidence and fear of being rejected is your only problem.Just be yourself and relax. She's already comfortable being close to you. You seem to be at ease around her too.Good luck!
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