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writes:my girl friend and me haven't been together for 5 months and suddenly she was having nightmares that i was raping her. it has been 2 days since she told me she was having nightmares. the nightmare has been going on for 3 weeks. shes scared to go to sleep and she needs help. we tried disscussing on msn wht the problem would be but we have found nothing that would trigger it. shes to scared to see me and we can find a solution.meany thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe can't find anthing that has triggered it. this is her first proper realationship. i have said to her that i will have her permission to touch her or antything.
Thanks for the advice Charli and Peaches.
P.S. i haven't slept with her
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reader, charli 1603 +, writes (12 November 2007):
 ok first of all, you need to find out what it is causing this nightmare. has she been in a similar situation in a previous relationship maybe. secondly, you need to give her space to deal with it in her own way dont keep pushing the fact that she needs help, it will only scare her more, as quite clearly this isn't normal. thirdly, dont give her a choice in whether to see you or not. just turn up. make har see that you have no intention or harming her in any way shape or form. and i know this may seem a stupid thing to say, but for gods sake keep calm at all times in front of her. if she see's you getting impatient, it will scare her.
hope this helps a little.
charli x
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Wow that is pretty dramatic. Personal question have you slept together?? If ya can can you get her to send me a private message i think i could help.
Peaches
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