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writes:She tells me that its her busy life that that's why she don't want to be boyfriend and girlfriend! But any free time she has she spends it with me! Which I don't care cause I want to too! But that she feels bad cause I stop doing what I use to do for her and she thinks its not fair for me to stop everything o would do! and we always talk on the phone so we know where we are at she works late on weekends she calls me whenever she's oyt! What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): I used to do exactly what this girl is doing to you. If I met a nice guy that I like as a friend but not attracted, or wouldn't see myself dating, I used to use the busy excuse. But off course, I still wanted them for just male companiionship. It's hard to tell a guy, "hey, i want to hang out with you but i'm not attracted to you, or i don't want you. Or, I'm looking and waiting for someone else, but it's not you, but in the meantime, I would like to hang out with you"
I agree with the other post, noone is too busy for love. You could be doing 3 jobs, you're never too busy for love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): let me tell you something. Whenever someone tells you they have "no time" for a relationship" they're lying. Brain Surgeons, Comapny CEOs and the president of the united states have time for romance, why not her? what's really going on is that this is just a nice way to say you are not her type. She sees you as a friend and you'll never hit that. ever. eventually she'll get into a relationship with someone she likes, but not you. trust me. so it's your choice if you wanna stick around and be her emotional tampon, hearing her talk about other guys she likes, or you can just ignore her and find someone else. and in that case she might come running towards you cause women are like that.
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (3 June 2009):
 I think she just sees you and likes you as a friend. The whole busy thing is her way of letting you down easy. Sometimes girls will just lie a little not to break someone's heart. And sometimes we also want a little male companionship. She's not using you but I bet when she meets a guy she's 100% into, she won't be busy. You like her a lot - do you think being busy would stop you from pursuing a relationship with her. No.And I don't think she's even that busy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Okay, from what you say it sounds like she does actually have a busy life, but what time she has she spends with you. I think maybe part of the reason she feels guilty is because in her mind you are contributing more than she is able to, and like most good people, she wants to pull her weight. It isn't fair, which probably worries her, but it works for you, so let her know that. Let her know that you do not feel cheated or taken advantage of. She may continue to feel guilty about it, or she may realize you are serious, but you can't control how someone else chooses to feel.
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