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writes:Hello everyone, i don´t have many friends and yet the few I have, they have moved abroad for better work, to study etc...So now I´ve got only one friend I can hang out, we´ve known each other for very long time and I can say we were best friends... but I guess we´re not anymore...because she´s changing for a person I don´t like to hang out with...She´s started to cheat her longtime boyfriend (who became my friend as well for the years) and she´s not sorry, she´s acting like a real bitch. and when I say I don´t like it she starts to tell me that i don´t support her and that I´m on her boyfriend´ side (of course I am!) who have no idea...I feel really sorry for him, but she wants to keep them both...I don´t like to be in the company with a person like her, but she´s the only person I´ve got in this town so I have to... I need some advice what to do or what to say to her to change a little bit...thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2013): thank you, I guess you´re right, but I really don´t know where to find new friends..but I´ll try...and it hurts to let go the friendship with that friend, because we know each other like all my life...but I really really hate how she´s changed..and yes, if her boyfriend finds out that I knew, it will be the end too...
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 October 2013):
 I agree with CMMP
She isn't worth keeping around as a friend, because it makes you FEEL bad for HER actions. You certainly don't HAVE to stay friends with her. It might just feel that way, but I have no doubt that there are plenty of people on your age group you can get to know. It might seem a little scary, but making some new friends isn't going to hurt you. And as you get older it WILL get harder.
Time to make some new friends. If you have a hobby or want to learn something new in your spare time THIS is a perfect time to do it. Take some classes, join a gym, join a hiking group, nature group.. whatever tickles your fancy. BUT GET OUT there and met more people!
I would just slowly let that friendship run it's course.
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reader, Miss.Cupid +, writes (15 October 2013):
 like the person below me stated. a bad friend, is not a friend at all. Her acting like that, you might as well not have her as a friend. your stating that her boyfriend and you became good friends. If he ever found out you know about her cheating ways you will lose the guy friendship. I'm not here to say that you should let this friendship go. But I will say its not going anywhere. us girls, we are stubborn, we believe we are right all the time. Changing her will not work, having a convention for her to change wont work. I believe you can find yourself better friends in your area. its easy. Coffee shops, library's, bars, restaurants, or hang out with the guy friend and he most likely has his friends. Its easier making friends, then dealing with a dead end friendship. Good luck
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 October 2013):
A bad friend is not a friend at all. If I was you I'd simply tell her that you don't think the two of you have much in common anymore and get out and meet new friends.
Too many people try hanging on to old friends and don't make new ones, who could potentially become amazing friends.
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