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writes:Ok she told me she likes me and she's attracted to me and I think she seems . Suddenly the next day she is saying we should keep distance because she thinks we might not get together. She has a bf of 4 years but she has initiated to brake up with him countless times and cant tolerate him any longer. But her bf is controlling her and dosent want a break up. When she asked me to move on, i asked her is it because your still in love him, and she said yes. But a few days later I found out she said that because she wanted me to move on. She told me she havent found her mr right yet and she keep saying we are still young(we both are 18). I have already waited for her for 19 months. Her bf had broke her trust many times. Why suddenly have her feelings changed so quickly toward me? Am I really in her heart? Or is she just lying so that I can move on? She is sick and tired of love because of her current bf and they still havent broke up yet. I really love her a lot and I gave her emotional support when her bf hurt her emotionally and she was crying then. She had feelings for me before and we even talked about our future of us been together. Do you think she is really in love with her bf? But he is controlling her, how is that possible? And they quarell quite often.. I am confused. Am I really in her heart? Should I still wait for her even though she is asking me to move on?I told her I'm willing to wait for her for as long as I have to. And she wants me to hate her by making me angry. I'm really confused. I'm really in love with her and it hurts me when she asks me to move on. PLEASE, PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS! THANK YOU! :)
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reader, Tatumokeef  +, writes (9 November 2009):
 According to your problem, they have been together since they were 14 and you have been waiting for her since you were 16 or 17. It sounds to me like she is just too comfortable in her relationship. She doesnt want to leave him because she is scared that she wont find that comfort anywhere else and doesnt want to be alone. Most likely she isnt in love with him. She may love him, but she is not in love. Time will come when she realizes that she wants to experience someone else.I give you credit for waiting that long for a girl that has a boyfriend. You may want to consider dating someone else or even just talking to other girls. Im not telling you that you should move on and forget about this girl completely. Perhaps if you start talking to other girls and show that you are willing to move on, she may act on it on chase after you. She will always be there, but you cant spend your whole life waiting around for a girl that doesnt appreciate you waiting for her. You are young and I dont want you to regret waiting for this girl and experiencing life with other people and relationships. If it was meant for the two of you to be together, then you will be together, but don't wait around for a broken heart. Just try different things like I said above and observe how she reacts. Honestly, I would give their relationship a couple more months at the most. Good luck man.
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