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writes:Hello - Please help!! I have a girl in my office who earlier smiles at me while having eye contacts, she even mirrored me, she use to play with hairs while looking at me, she tried to talk to me. But, when i tried to make an eye contact with her, she looks away. Now she even avoid coming in front of me. I don't know the reason, but i wanted to let her know, that i really like her. but her recent behavior changes, looks to me very confusing. As she is completely avoiding coming in near to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. Well, she now tries to come in front of me and mirroring a bit of my habits, but when i tried to make an eye contact with her, she immediately make her head down. I don't know, what exactly, this is been going. Do you guys have any thoughts??
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (1 October 2015):
 Hi,
you must stop looking at her, as of now and please stop making eye contact with her also.
Her 'sudden change', may be based upon numerous factors, however, the most obvious factor, is that she is sending you the signal and hint to pretty much, 'back off' and leave her alone.
You may ask, why?
Well, with the exception of this woman, none of us can truly say, yet know why.
She may have liked to smile/look at you before and maybe she was simply being friendly and possibly even a bit flirty, (because she may have liked you and she could see you were interested in her), but now, for whatever reason, her openess and warmth has ceased, so you need to do a reality check here and don't read anything more into it.
As a woman myself, i can almost guarantee, that she isn't interested in you on a deeper level and she may not wish to get closer to you, get to know you better.
On the flip side of the coin, or very 'improbably', she may actually like you, but is dead scared of getting too close, because she has little or no experience, where men and relationships are concerned.
I doubt this very much though, because most women will be quite receptive to a man, that they're very interested in, or very attracted to.
When i say 'receptive', i simply refer to being open to ongoing dialogue/getting to want to know you better, nothing more.
The fact is, you are both working within the same building and you're both going there to work, so do just that and if she is showing no further interest in you, by way of eye contact, then you behave respectfully and you stop making eye contact with her too.
She is an adult and if she is interested in getting to know you better, i am certain that she will make it very obvious to you, by making eye contact and smiling again.
If she continues to display her disinterest in you, then you accept that and you don't push it.
If she isn't the person for you, regardless of how much you like her, then there will be somebody else, but you just haven't met her yet.
All the best and let me know how you get on. :-)
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (30 September 2015):
 I would take her hint. Her hint is that she doesn't want to get to know you better. Why? Who knows.
At this point, if you are still spending a lot of time staring at her then you do need to check that, and stop it.
Ignore her, don't make eye contact, look past her, don't acknowledge her unless you have a work reason to do so.
I think you came across badly and the only way to fix that is to create a gap and by the lack of your presence, allow her to decide if she's inclined to speak to you again.
Or have you ever actually spoken to her?
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