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writes: about a month ago i met a really special woman! She is the one i have been waiting for, and it just feels realy perfect when we are together! We both feel the same way, but about a year ago her boyfriend died in a accident, and she is still battling to get to terms with it... Im helping her where i can, and encouraging her to talk about him, and not to feel quilty to talk of him infront of me... It really does not bother me, and i want us to be open, and able to talk freely about anything... im not pushing her, and im not putting pressure on her, and the last week or so, she has been opening up a lot, and talking about her past, so i think there is progress...What can i do to help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): Aww! You sound like your been very sweet Just carry on Supporting her and showing that her you care and love her I cant even Imagine how awful it is to lose someone that she shared a close relationship with she is so strong!, however life does move on which is why she’s making this Special relationship with you work, You sound very understanding and Just who she needs right now,
You may have been sent to be with her for a reason,
I have a strong belief in this also in Angels, If she believes this as well you could ask her to get “Healing with the Angels by Doreen Virtue” a self help book no matter what her religion its not just for Christians however ask her first don’t push her into getting this if she doesn’t want too but, This helped me get though deaths of Grandparents and healed any fears in general and I am a lot more
at peace as a result,
However this is just a guideline and you know you girlfriend obviously so think about what would suit her best, maybe she could find another book or counseling session that would help her?
Suggest some of these things if she asks for help from you hope this has helped
Take care of yourself and your partner,
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 just be their for her and try to be understanding loving and caring, dont smother her let her know youre their and that you want to help her through it.. its always hard when someone has died, i had a friend that died not even a month ago, i still havent spoken to his parents im to scared too, i dont want to mention it encase i cause upset, i couldnt be at the funeral makes me feel worse.. so whats kept me going is people asking me if i want to talk and that their their for me if and when i need them, nothing can replace a loss, but try and do happy fun things that helped me so much friends taking me out and doing nice things with me it showed me to appreciate the friends i have and not to forget the ones who are gone.. hope this helps xxxx
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reader, Nikita +, writes (6 January 2007):
 You sound so lovely. I wish id had someone like you when my bf died years ago. You are doing all you can for this girl and she is lucky to have you there. Just keep doing what you're doing is my advice. She obviously trusts you a lot as she is opening up to you so you're obviously doing the right thing and saying the right things. A year is not long so she will want to talk about him. Its only natural and part of the healing process. You're doing the right thing in not putting pressure on her. Just be there for her like you're doing but dont make her talk about him because you imagine it will help. Just let it happen. It sounds like you have the makings of a good strong relationship so be patient, be that shoulder and she will love you for it. Take care of yourself and herxx
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