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writes:This is not help for me, i just really want to know what you guys think is going on in this girls head. I guess im usual old curious george. I know it has absolutely nothing to do with me, but ive been dragged into the situation and so has my boyfriend, and i like to understand why people do the things they do.Basically. My boyfriend has two best friends that were a couple for five years. They just recently broke up, about five months ago. A month after they broke up she got with one of my boyfriends other friends. They seemed happy to be together at first, the only issue they had was telling her ex because they were all friends if that makes sense. So they kept it a secret for a while and my boyfriend had to as well. When they eventually told him he felt betrayed by his friend and started trying to stir things up between them. The girl started going back to see him and sleep with him and when her boyfriend was rushed into hospital she held a celebratory party. She told me she was going to dump him and use him for the last bit of money he had before she did. She doesnt seem like a very nice girl, i know. She kept ringing her ex up and telling him she was dreaming about him and missed him so much, she even wrote a letter to him at one point. Her boyfriend was totally smitten with her and wanted to get married and the works but she kept pissing him about and cheating on him with her ex. Her ex was stirring things between them still and telling her new boyfriend about all their sex antics.Now they have finally broke up and shes gone back to her ex, but is still ringing the other man up and telling him she misses him and loves him. Shes obviously very mixed up.I just wanna know what you thinks going on in her head to do such things!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni could tell she was insecure from the first time i met her, shes very flirtatious with every man she sees, regardless of whether his girlfriends next to him or not and she does seem to thrive on the attention your right. The thing is her ex is just as bad as her, they love the drama and revel in it and so are really perfect for each other. Her ex just wants her for the sex anyway he doesnt really care about her. But her other ex, the more recent one that she was using for money and stuff, is still totally smitten with her. Everytime i go see him hes talking about her and how he doesnt think she was using him for the money and does really love him and he keeps going to see her. Its upsetting because ive been sworn to secrecy but i know she was just in it for the money really and the free drugs. He spent 15 grand on her in the 3 months they were together and now hes in debt. Shes 23 as well.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (17 June 2009):
My first question is: how old is this girl? She sounds very immature. Like what most others have said, she sounds like she just wants attention. She's probably not happy with either guy but settles on having someone just so that she isn't alone, then when she's with the other person she still wants the atttention of the other. It would probably be better if she just made up her mind and decided neither one of them, especially since it wasn't exactly "right" in the first place to start dating her ex's friend. It sounds like a bunch of drama and she probably thrives on it and the feeling that there's more than one person that wants her. She's probably very insecure also.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Honestly, the girl sounds like an attention seeker. She doesn't mind about using and abusing people so long as the light keeps shining on her. Probably deep down she is neither happy with her ex or her current boyfriend. There will be a reason for that - she isn't happy with herself deep down and that is why she feels no shame in using people to make herself feel better.
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reader, ego  +, writes (17 June 2009):
sounds like,like most of us,she just wants to be noticed - by as many people as possible aparently! with little or no regard for the feelings of others.
i think with time people with slowly cut their ties with her as they lose patients with her antics and purhaps then she will learn her lesson?
i doubt theres anything you can do. except maybe tell your friends to stay away from her
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reader, pinkbump +, writes (17 June 2009):
this is horrible ! someone should tell her shes sick and she should pull herself together and stop being a bitch.
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