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writes:Ok! She goes 2 school from 7 to 6 mondays thru thrusdays! And her parents own a drive thru and they r open 7 days a week! She works after she gets out of school to help her parents! And da little time she has we spend it together! She says she loves me but its not fair to me for me not to b goin out cause of her! We had have sex b4 and she likes same as I do! but then she tells me that she would lik a little space between us that she would lik 2 spend time with her friends! There's time that she is real sweet to me! What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Well in light of the additional information you provided, I can safely say that you have your answer for sure then.If she didn't want anything serious in the first place and you agreed, why are you even worried about her pushing you away? You owe each other nothing.Why is it bugging you? You both knew that it was casual, so why should this be a problem at all?Since it's casual, you should have no problem with it when you see her kissing on some other guy?RIGHT?Or when you find out she is screwing one of your buddies? RIGHT? So you see, since you are not committed, there is no cause to be so worried.Case solved! So celebrate your new found funtime and go plant straight and skinny in some other chick's garden tonight! Since it's casual and not serious, she certainly isn't gonna mind.RIGHT?She told you she was holding you back, So test that theory and go out and get laid THIS VERY NIGHT! She won't mind, after all she didn't feel she was being fair to you, so take her at her word! and make sure you let her know that you are taking her advice and getting your freak on because after all, its just casual!
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reader, alonzo +, writes (3 June 2009):
alonzo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk! But she's not goin 2 get any vacitons cause she wants 2 finish her school already! But we r just dating & she has told me since da beggin that she didn't want noting serius! Cause of her busy life! We dating like for 4 months & we stop talking like for almost 3 months! So we been dating again lik for 3 months! She's the one who came back one nite to y house & we started 2 talk again lik friendz! But it was me who went for it & she did wanted it too! So what do u think about that?
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (3 June 2009):
It's simple...
Young man, she is trying to give you an out(i.e. she is already in the process of phasing you out as her boyfriend)and she is giving you every indication that she wants you to end it so she wont feel so guilty. When she is using that "It's not fair to you not to be going out because of her". she really means "I want you to break up with me so I can screw other guys and not feel bad about it".
It's the oldest trick in the book...handed down from Mother to Daughter, Father to Son.
This way you end it with her so when she hooks up with the next guy(if she already hasn't, which by your account is debatable)she can justify it by saying you broke it off. She is trying to surreptitiously tell you that you two are not together anymore.
If she has so little time because of school and work, with summer coming up I am sure she wants to explore her options.
Unfortunately, I am afraid it is at your expense.
And being that most likely is the case, I think you better make a clean break and find someone who isn't going to send you smoke signals about their intentions. Sorry to be harsh, but I want you to be prepared for the inevitable. Once she says she wants to spend more time with her friends, or wants space, she is telling you that she is looking to trade you in for an upgrade, which can only be accomplished by hanging out with her friends...not you.
believe me, if you two break up, you should not be shocked to learn within a couple of weeks afterwards that she is already dating someone else.
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