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41-50,
*oogie4
writes:Hi,I've been in a relationship with a female for almost 3 years. Things were good at first, but we started having problems. Well long story short, last week she told me she didn't want "titles" - meaning boyfriend or girlfriend status. On top of that, she says she wants to "take one day at a time." I also just found out that she has a current profile on a dating site, and she's certainly looking at new prospects. She does not know that I know. I want to mention it, but if I do she will know I was in her computer and this will cause more drama. She will probably use the whole privacy thing against me.Is she just being nice to me until she finds someone else? Thank you for your thoughts! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): You are just plan B until plan A works. Dump her.
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reader, boogie4 +, writes (14 August 2010):
boogie4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionquiet echo, by hiding in plain sight, you mean keep the regular routine the same, until she's ready to drop the bomb? just looking for clarity, thanks!
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (14 August 2010):
Take it from a woman! sweetie, shes using you shes ordering the panties and for them to come to your house because she is telling you she will still be coming over to see you because her panties are there! but does that soften your heart! or gives you hope? i hope not users are the worst kind! runner up w/ cheating but they both are one in the same. oh yea and a place for her tooth brush to be sitting in the tooth brush holder saying look at me im here.
Wake up!
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (14 August 2010):
I know you want to respect her privacy! and you should have. so yes how do you approach it now? thats whats eating at you most! because you know and can't say anything because you 2 will feel guilty about invading her privacy! and she would have every right to walk out and stick you w/ the blame! so the question is what do you do? the only thing to do or you can just live w/ it and wait until she walks and you'll have your answer but too or you ready to let go? and just be honest w/ her and take your lickin's and chalk it off as a lesson learned!
Good Luck!
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reader, boogie4 +, writes (14 August 2010):
boogie4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all the answers gang. One quick update....yesterday she bought a new toothbrush, etc. and has recently ordered new underwear to be delivered to my house...so it sounds as though she's just keeping her options open. If she was trying to be totally done with me, why would she still buy these items and tell me?
Is this another ruse?
Not trying to be naive, just stating the facts...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): You are not part of her long term plans as far as settling down (marriage) is concerned. It has nothing to do with a "title," she doesn't want to be with you anymore, therefore why keep the title?
I am certain there were red flags that you missed that all pointed to this breakup coming......Don't run after her, and don't beg for her to stay or to come back to you.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 Yes, she is just being nice to you until she finds someone else. You should look for the nearest exit and disappear to avoid a major heart break later.
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