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writes:just starting to see this girl we had an off and on ting going for a while. I love her very much she saying she wants to have a relationship with me but some thing is stopping her. she is unsure what it is she thinks I'm a really great guy and thinks I would be perfect for her and she said she is kicking herself that she does not feel the love for me but said she wants to.I am unsure what we can do to proceed from here can anyone help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2016): She likes having you around buddy but just not enough to want a relationship. So I would suggest you spend your time with women who want to date you not ones who simply like your company.
You should be a scarcity with her, as the old adage goes the heart grows fonder with absence. unless she doesn't care one way or the other about you being around, in that case the old adage doesn't apply. Move on bud.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 March 2016):
 I agree with Ciar.
She DOES know what's stopping her. She might not admit it or WANT to admit it, but she does know. She is in her 30+ so not NEW to all this relationship stuff. She likes the notion of you, your personality etc, but she doesn't FEEL any chemistry. There are not butterflies or fireworks going off. And while she KNOWS intellectually that you ARE a good catch, and that you are the kind she SHOULD be attracted to, she isn't.
I think the ONLY way you can proceed from here, is to let her go and move on. FIND yourself someone who DOESN'T have these reservations about you. Someone who CAN love you back.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (18 March 2016):
 What's stopping her is she doesn't feel the same way about you that you do about her.
You look good on paper, as the saying goes. You're good to be around, intelligent, attractive enough but for some reason she doesn't feel the chemistry.
I don't see how you can proceed from here. Not the answer you're looking for, I know, but there you have it.
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