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writes:I use to be a real shy quiet guy. only really been with a girl because A: either they asked me out or B: i thought it might work... i have been in 4 relationships,first was a girl who lived 1400 miles away, we met online on an online game called world of warcraft. we talked on the phone, her parents loved me... but.. i dont know what really happened with that.. distance she got her phone taken away and we have been talking on and off (with months in between)for 2 years. she even remembered my number when she got a hold of one of her friends phones for 15 minutes. that was the last time i talked to her about 4 months ago. one with a girl who was 3 years older then me.. lasted maybe a week (she ended it)... one with a girl who was my age, but we lived 2 hours away and it didnt feel like a real relationship and distance really doesnt work with me... lasted a month, I ended this one.. third was a girl from school.. we were WAY to differnt for each toher.. ended after a month... anywho this is my confuzzeling relationshiop.There is this girl that i have had my eye on forever, she is very attactive and i have always been too shy to say anything to her... until i found out we shared a mutual friend.i seen her in the hallway during lunch one day and i came up to her and said hi, and instantly we hit it off.. we talked for the rest of the lunch period and exchanged numbers.. we texted each other non-stop for two days and thats when the facts started pooring out..she is 15 (a freshman) and i am 16, almost 17 (a junior) she has had a miscarage (witch she shared with me within minutes of meeting her, at first i kind of just shrugged it off) her mother isnt a nice person.. abusive, and the one thing that bothers me the most is, she is still isnt over her old boyfriend who was the babbydaddy. whitch i found out when she accidentally sent me a text that she ment to send to her cusin. i also found out she cuts.. witch severly bothers me. and she has had sex with more then one guy.. i myself and still a virgin.. instantly i looked to my friends for help, they told me to fuck and dump.. witch of course i didnt do, and dont plan on it. but i asked her out and she said yes. today when we were sitting in the parking lot of her work.. i swear to god she leaned in and i kissed her.... but she didnt kiss back.. embarrassing.. at this point i dont know what to do, if i should give her time? i kind of feel like i maybe asked her out too soon with her still not over her previous boyfirned.. i dont know what to do? she seems like she has a lot of problems, i dont know.. will it be worth it? a lot of people in school think she is annoying, but pretend to like her.. she has told me that.. i dont know if she wants to be dating me? i feel like more of a consuler then a boyfriend... we have been dating for a day, and been talking for 4 days...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLOL i fail. sorry i didnt listen to you.. it ended less then two weeks of dating... i dunno my life is messed up with girls lol.. now im talking to the one from Okahoma. 735.48 miles away, about 11 hours 3 minute drive . dont ask how i know the details... .
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy question was more if she was worth the trouble. i met her mother today, and we went to a movie, her mother just happen to be goin to the same movie. also tonight, we shared our first kiss.. she has not mentioned her except for the accidental text that she sent me.. i am going to give things a shot, and so far things are going fantastically.
I am sorry that i am not taking your advice, but things just got 110% better. i am less worried about the relationship.
thank you all for your opinions, really appresheated it, i will defanitly be back to update, or ask further questions..
thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay, thank you for your advice, i may update this later on and let you know what is goin on
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (15 December 2010):
 She may care for you, but that does not mean that this relationship is best suited for you both. If you feel over you head, let that be a red flag! How to break it off? Tell her that you're sorry, you really like her, but you just don't think it'd going to work right now. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe told me that she misses me, i told her i missed her too, and she said she misses me more.. i think she might actually care for me =D.. who knows?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe said she missed me for the first time... i dont know if that means anything.. but who knows?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhow do i tell her that i don't want to be in a relationship anymore then? how do i tell her i messed up? should i make her break up wtih me? ... i feel like i got in WAY over my head.. and to be honest i dont even know if she wants to be in this relationship.... RAWR
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 December 2010):
She does not sound like a girl you should get involved with. She sounds like an emotional rollercoaster ride waiting to happen. It is ALWAYS best to wait until someone has their heart completely free to start dating them.
I think that you should reconsider dating her. You sound like a nice guy with a good head on his shoulders - do not feel like you have to be the one to save her. (And yes, listen to your friends, PLEASE do not "fuck and dump" her. That is the very LAST thing this poor girl needs.)
I would give her some time. Good luck, sweet!
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