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writes:hey guys!!I am 20years old and have just got my first girlfriend, she was my friend before for about four years. Four years ago when we first met she told me she liked me but at the time i was arrogant n thort i could do better because i had other girls telling me they liked me. however i regret this as i was to picky when it came to girls i dnt know why, but now im 20years old have only just managed to get my first girlfriend, i havent even had much experience with girls especially on the physically aspect. In that space of four years she has manage to get 2 boyfriends both of which cheated on her and her longest relationship was 2months, she has also had a fling and kissed a couple of random guys. i know this may sound silly bt i feel abit jealous that she is more experience then me. she has taken some of the guys to the bedroom n then furthest shes been is dry sex and breast touching.furthermore i was the first that she let finger her as i broke her in as she was bleeding a bit thats what happens rite?. i feel insecure, inadequate, jealous, regret that i havnt done much in my past wish i had taken my opportunities when i had them. i have been her longest relationship and she has told me she has never felt like this for anyone before, and she is startng to fall for me and she has given me her heart.Every time i think about her past which has been everyday for the past 3 and a half months ive been with her, i get this burning feeling in my stomach and i keep visualising her being with those other guys n them kissing her and touching her its horrible how can i get rid of this someone help????? i just want be happy with her thats all n jus live in the present bt ive been trying soo hard to get rid of this feeling and forget her past!! i want this relationship to work as it is my first proper one and also because i think this girl something special and i wont find another like heri think this girl is tooooo good4me!! and she deserve better then me!!im always scared that im going to hurt her in some way i dnt want to!is there any guys who have been through this and can help me or even girls????can someone help me get rid of these feelingsss please!!!
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Dear anonymous writeR,
There is no reason to be jealous of her having more experience then you, you where just waiting for the right girl to come around and you like to take things slow! Usally a girl does not bleed when you finger her either she was starting to have her period or you may have broke the skin which means you poped her cherry! Get her out of your head with all the other guys it was befor she got with you forget the past and think about the future and what you have with this girl yeah she had others b4 you but you can be better then that you can be the one who dont hurt her. and you wont be the one who cheats on her. just be yourself and act the way you have always done! you are the only one who can get rid of the thoughts and feelings you have for her just think about you being the one who touched her!
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reader, lovedbubblegum +, writes (27 March 2007):
hi this isnt advice but i just wanted to let you know i feel the same about my boyfriend. especially the imagining them with b'fs g/fs from the past and it really hurts!
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