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Shes my best friend but I'm no longer attracted to her!!

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Question - (1 November 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 25 August 2008)
A male , anonymous writes:

I have being with my girlfriend for two years. I have moved away from my friends and family to be with her. I did this to patch things up, as we were having problems. I have cheated on her twice, and I feel trapped. She loves me alot, and I am scared to leave her, because I don't know if it's the right desicion. She's my best friend and I don't want to lose that, but I'm not attracted to her anymore. In my current situation I can't leave for another 4 months due to work related issues. I'm only 22, should I try and stay with her or leave? Should I break-up when we move back home in 4 months, where we would both have support?

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A male reader, Rex0328 United States +, writes (25 August 2008):

I agree with everyone here. Im the other side of this story my ex girlfriend held on to me because I always made her feel good everytime the other guy broke her heart. I recharged her so that she can go back to someone else. Let her go if you really love her. And I can guarantee you will remember this act of cowardess when it happens to you. And you'll realize who is right for you when it is to late. Good luck.

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A male reader, Lostandalone United States +, writes (3 November 2006):

Lostandalone agony auntI agree with everyone else. Leave her now. You have already cheated on her twice. You are being selfish and you will continue to hurt her and if you really love her friendship than let her go and be with someone who can love her and treat her the right way. Being able to let someone go is also part of true love.

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A female reader, Lorraine31 +, writes (1 November 2006):

Lorraine31 agony auntMy friend was treated almost the same as your girlfriend and I know the heart ache she suffered as a result of being strung along until someone better came along for her boyfriend. Do the right thing. let your girlfriend go NOW. Its completely selfish and unreasonable for you to hang on for four more months giving this girl hope for the future with you. What you are waiting for is support for yourself not your girlfriend. You say yourself that you are afraid to let her go...afraid for yourself. that is such a selfish attitude to have. One day your girlfriend will look back and know she had a lucky escape. She will find someone who truly loves her. let the poor girl go now...she will survive fine without you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006):

My friend found herself with a guy like yourself in the past. You are being completely selfish and totally unreasonable to give this girl hope for the future. What you want is support for yourself, not her, thats why you want to wait the four months. I'm sure she will look back in time and count her blessings that you dumped her. You are both young. Have a look at yourself and do the decent thing. Break up with her. She will survive and go on to meet someone who will truly love her. Don't waste anymore of her time. Please.

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