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writes: Me and my girlfriend have been dating ever since January 10, 2006. Since a few weeks ago she has been acting weird, and talking to her friends more than me by far, but only when she is with them, when she isnt with them, she talks to me like nothing is wrong. Then today I logged into her e-mail because i used it to do a survey and deleted the spam, and found a e-mail back and forth to a guy that she lives a few houses down from. I guess previously they used to talk dirty and stuff, and in this e-mail, the guy keeps saying we really need to talk about what we used to, and she replys "lol, maybe..." and then he says "log on, i need to talk to you about that" and she says "darn-it, i missed you, but send me a note telling me exactly what you wanted to talk about. oh this is like my own personal life noone will ever find out about. (i like it)".... I am so scared, i dont know what to do. i love her so much, and i confronted her tonight on the phone about it, but she tries avoiding it. I honestly dont know what to do or say. I will not break up with her unless she was doing something. Her mom, brother and sister are real nosy and they would know and say something if they were calling and talking or meeting or something... i really need help, please help me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): You suspected, you investigated and you found evidence.
Have the courage and self-respect to break up with this girl.
She can not possibily love you if, when you want to talk about these kind of worries she avoids the topic. No way. Someone that loves you would not treat you like that. This in itself shows the relationship to be damaged.
Add to the fact that you don't trust her and have been looking in to her emails; I think it shows your relationship is over. You need to realise this and get out whilst you still have some dignity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): Well, if she's avoiding the topic, then she must be hiding something. If she is doing nothing wrong, and if she loves you, she will take the time to explain to u what the email really meant. And she will reassure you that you are the only one.
You had a suspicion, you did some investigation, and found something out. I know it hurts but I've been there before. It's probably a sign that she's up to something fishy. But if she can give u a reasonable explanation, then I suggest stay, and work things out.
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