A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Okay, here is my story.I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years. For the first year, year and a half, we had sex a healthy number of times and she was very into it and so was I.For the past, I would say, 10, 11 months or so the sex has been completely almost non-existent. The last time I remember her being into sex and even initiating it was last February. Since then we have done it maybe 3 or 4 times and all the times seemed like she was doing it just to get it over with and done. Whenever I try to initiate it she says she's not in the mood or tired.I will give you a little background. She has been on OrthoTriCyclen Lo (birth control) since the relationship began and has been on Depakote (mood stabilizer) for bipolar disorder.What irks me is that she is still taking the birth control even though we are not having sex. I don't know why'd she still be taking it.We both love each other very much but I can't for the life of me understand why she would just stop almost completely cold turkey. I feel for all the other guys having the same problem as me. It is very tough to deal with. It upsets me and makes me feel like a sexual deviant whenever I try to initiate anything. Please help me. Thank you for your responses.
View related questions:
in the mood Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): I have been w/ my partner for 3 years, and just over the past two months I have lost all interest in sex as well. I am on birth control, but no other meds. She probably doesnt want to stop taking birth control b/c it regulates her periods. I dont understand this sudden loss of interest in sex, but my partner is also experiencing frustrating times. I hate it b/c I love him very much and Im very attracted to him. Maybe females bodies just go through this from time to time. Im going to talk to my doctor about it. My advise to you is just flirt more, and try to turn her on in different ways than ever before. good luck.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): Well if it is the medication there are no excuses as she can go to the doctor and see if they are the cause and if there are alternatives.
I feel your pain though mate, trying to cope with the same thing. All happening and interested and then just, nothing!
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): --Original Person with Question.
I don't think she is seeing someone else. I have approached her a couple of times and asked her about it and she insisted there is nobody else she is even thinking about.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): hi im a girl on birth control and anti depressants and im exactly the same i have no interest in sex! ive bin with my partner for 3 years and at first everything was fine but in the last few months its changed, i know i am ruining myn relationship and its not cus i dont love my partner or find him attractive cus i really really do,i honestly think it is the tablets i am taking so maybe talk to her about coming off the tablets or trying a different type she needs to explain to her doctor what the problem is and im sure it could be sorted, hope this helps
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): Im not trying to be harsh, but i kind of know what you mean sometimes it seems like your imposing onto them something they really would rather do without, but if shes stil taking birth control and all have you considered the possibility that shes seeing someone else?
...............................
|
