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writes: We met in 1984 while I was in the Navy. She was stunning, and before long, we were seeing each other every night. This went on for about 3 or 4 months, until I went home on Christmas leave. While I was home, she called me and told me she thought she was pregnant. I told her not to worry, and that I would come directly to see her when I got home. She was, indeed, pregnant, and we married in March of 1985. During the time she was pregnant, she told me of another guy in our apartment complex that she was seeing before me, but I never questioned our relationship's integrity. She even told me she had visited his apartment for dinner while I was away, but that nothing had happened, just dinner. Time flash to now, 2006, after asking her several pointed questions about the affair, she informs me that in addition to dinner, they made out for a while, she went to his bedroom, took off all of her clothes, then the guy joined her in bed, she attempted to have sex with him (while pregnant) but he refused, telling her she was too young for him. She was 18, he was 24. Now, I have 2 problems with this: 1. She lied to me many times, and I don't believe anything (much) about that evening, and when I try to quiz her on specific details, she says "I don't remember, and 2. I'm afraid my 21 year old daughter might not be mine. Should I go for the paternity test?Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): youve raised this girl as a daughter for 21 years, by all intense and purpose your the father. any dick can be a dad but it takes a lot to be father. but if the doubts about paternity effect you that much and you think about it everytime you see her then theres no other advice then to have your doubts answered with the test.
it sounds like your wife is being honest and hasnt been through your marriage.
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 really does it matter if she's yours or not you have raised her all her life no matter if it's blood or not she's still your daughter and if you get the test done and things come back neg are you still going to love your daughter the same as you did before you found out, and if things come back pos then your wife if going to be really mad that you didn't trust her. Talk to your daughter first and see if she wants to go through this and if she agrees then tell her to be prepared for all possible outcomes. Just be careful
Hope that helps
plus if you love your daughter it wouldn't matter if she was blood or not you'll always love her.
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