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writes:She's interested or just friendly?I hope someone can give me some advice. I know I sound pretty inept about it, but i been single for over 5 years now.There's a girl who started working where I do recently, our work is such that we only see each other every couple of weeks and even then it's rare to get a chance to talk without 20 other people around. I'm pretty sure I've noticed her smiling at me. Yesterday we were alone together for the first time and had a nice chat, she asked a lot of questions about me, and I about her. What I can't tell is if she's just being friendly or is really interested. Replaying it in mind now, it seems like she is, but I've had similar experiences in the past only to find out the girl had a boyfriend (or I noticed a wedding ring after a couple of conversations), so I'm wonder if I just can't tell socializing from flirting. I know there's not a lot here to go on, but I'd appreciate any insights you might have.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (29 June 2013):
 "If you are available, I'd love to buy you a drink or a coffee after work today."
If you were able to ask her a lot of questions, did you ask where she and her boyfriend went on holiday last year and what their plans were this year? Her answer would tell you if she had a boyfriend or husband or not.
Women do not mind answering basic relationship questions like these; it's what we like to to, to establish social connections. So ASK her already, ask her if she is single.
Then ask her out, if you are interested. She's not working for you or with you closely, so is there a culture or rule in your workplace that you can't date co-workers?
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (29 June 2013):
My opinion is different from others but I think if you are interested in her and she does show some interest in you, you should at least confidently, try to ask her out. Single for 5 years can rly make you over analyse things but who knows, this lady may be interested in you and in her head I am sure she has made up her mind if she is into you or not.
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reader, helpathand6  +, writes (29 June 2013):
Hi,
I think you need to take this slow if you don't want to dive right in and ask I think it would be best next to ask her for a coffee after work something casual and if she says yes brilliant see how it goes and if not then you know were you stand but I think the best thing is to be honest and ask her if there is a chance for something to happen between you too.
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