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writes:I know I'm only 17 years old but I met this girl on YouTube four years ago and ever since then.. my feelings have been getting very profound... I am doubly sure she reciprocates as I recall asking her if she'd ever date me... to which the answer was in the positive... I have no doubts she is in love with me as well... I am going to be starting College soon and will leave to the States to study with a friend because we are undergoing the same major and are going to be working together in the pursuit of science. I have been planning this for a long time, but I want to meet her... I know what she looks like, I've heard her voice... we've exchanged Skype calls before... She just turned 18 on May 13 so she is only a few months older than I... Any advice on how to make this work? She lives in the United States and I in Canada... She is situated in Florida whereas I am in the region of Ontario, city of Toronto... Can this work? It's been four years since I met her and I'm crazy about her... I know I make her happy... and she makes me happy... Reply to this Question
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reader, sunshine90 +, writes (1 June 2012):
If you have felt this way for this long and the feelings are mutual there is no reason you can't make it work, or atleast try. What is meant to be will be, I know that's hard to hear I'm putting love to the test right now myself. Sometimes you have to take risks. So tell the girl you love her and want to make things work!
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reader, SupremeAssassin +, writes (27 May 2012):
SupremeAssassin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou have a point...
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 You guys haven't even met face to face in real life yet. For all you know when together it won't work... Online is VERY different from real life.
I'm going to tell you that as an adult with funds and transportation and only a two hour car drive apart we spent one year being an LDR couple and it was hard. We saw each other every weekend... I know LDR couples that see each other 3 out of four weekends... but again they are mature adults.
You have so many strikes against you right now that while it might be workable for a while a long term future is doubtful. I have to be honest here.
I am not saying that you don't want to attempt this but you need to understand that the distance and your young ages and the fact that college is looming for you are all strikes against you. Also the fact that you have not met in real life is not a good sign.
I wrote this article on LDRs: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-my-long-distance-relationship-worth-it.html
To make this work you need:
trust
honesty
communication
regularly scheduled face to face visits
a plan to end the distance gap
I mean what can you make work if you don't plan to be in the same place eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2012): If you're sure the feelings are mutual between you both and she wants what you want, then all that remains to consider is whether both of you are committed and can provide the means to visit each other and keep things going as oppose to letting things fizzle out between the pair of you. But as you said, you've been chatting for four years and communication and chemistry between you two gets better and better (albeit 4 years since you last met her) its sounds like you may have a good chance making this work.
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