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writes:im am 17 and going to be a senior next year, i feel like a creep but there is an eighth that is 14 that i really like and i think she likes me..what should i do date her, tell her to leave me alone or what? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): well if you really ike her i guess it's ok, but just dont break the law
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): i dont see any problem with it.im 14 almost 15 and my boyfriend is 17 and our relationship is great.but....u have to make sure her parents are ok with it because they usually are very protective of their teenage girls.i know mine is!. it also depends on the 2 people.i've known my boyfriend since i was 12 and we only recently started dating.so i would say we know each other pretty well.my advice is if u like her that much and u know for sure she likes u back go for it!but make sure u get to know her first.also ur older than her so ur pprobably more experienced,dont force her to do anything she doesnt want to do.good luck!
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reader, Delilah1990 +, writes (1 July 2010):
 Well to tell you, i wouldn't. If youre parents are ok with it and hers are too then that might be good. but the age difference can start some difficulties that can end up being really bad.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, he's 20 and I'm only 17. We started dating when I was 15 a sophomore in high school and he was 18 a senior in high school. The age difference started some problems and the cops ended up getting involved, turned out that i was able to go out with him becuase it was less than 2 1/2 years different. I don't know. i would make sure that it's ok with both your parents before you make any final decisions.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (1 July 2010):
I tell you what shes 14 and if anything happens between you? you need to know she will talk because at that age they brag about everything i would say no no no she is still a kid believe me and they act like one too!
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reader, a113yx8 +, writes (1 July 2010):
It depends are you going out with her just to have fun or do you want a long term relationship? If you want a long relationship I think you should find someone your age therefore, you will be able to share your senior year together, graduation and all that.If your with her, it'll be hard when you go to college and your schedules may be way off. I'm not trying to be pesimistic but I started dating my boyfriend when I was a freshmen and he was a jr. Now I am going to be a jr and he is going to college. Its about 45 mins away from me but I'm not sure how it'll go because our schedules will be so different. So anyways, just think about the long run if you believe there will be one :)
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reader, Philosophyzer +, writes (1 July 2010):
 At this stage in your life, age difference can be a huge bump in a relationship. The emotional maturity of someone at the age of 17 and the other at 14 is usually a big difference. Most parents will not be happy with their eighth grade daughter dating a senior in high school. Also, you will be leaving for college in a year, possibly. She will just be entering high school. You have a lot of life ahead of you and as does she, but you both are at completely different stages. It might be best to be practical in this situation and keep this at the friendship level. Not to mention, if things begin to get serious (and most likely, hot and heavy), this will soon become illegal. Just some things to think about. ;-) good luck!
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reader, blah89  +, writes (1 July 2010):
why dont you try becoming her friend and see how that goes and wen she is old enough try then, good things come to those who wait x
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 July 2010):
 To me that depends on more than just the age. If it was just the age then sure no problem. But consider these things, what does the law say about sex between you two? And it doesn't really matter if you are planning on sleeping together or not, it is just that if it is legal you will be left alone, and if it is not legal people will constantly stick their noses in your relationship and her parents might work against it.
Second, are you leaving anywhere for college? If so, do you want to enter a long-distance relationship? They are not easy.
Think about a few of these complications, I am sure there are more that I didn't mention already. If you are not planning on moving too far away, and if her parents are ok with it, and if you yourself are allowed to date.. then perhaps this is something you should aim for.
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reader, Bubbles513 +, writes (1 July 2010):
Age is mostly a number but can be an issue as well. I recomment be her friend first an check out her mentality level for a bit. If you do decide to date her, then be sure you know her parents an they are ok with the age difference before you make a decision to take it any further. Good luck!!!!
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