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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I seriously don't know what's in her mind. She's in a relationship with her bf for almost 5 years. She knows and realises she is not in a healthy relationship. She tells me her bf is very possessive and she has gone through a lot of emotional hurt in this relationship. She also broke up but patched back countless times with her bf. She knows I care and love her. Recently we had a argument because she wants me to move on. She just can't break up with him because it's hard for her and afraid she can't move on after breaking up. My close friend sent her a text message without me knowing. He wrote why she's hurting me all the times and he wrote something that triggered her guilty consciousness. Recently after that message, we had a chat on msn, she sounded caring, asked me to study hard for my exams and even asked how my family members were doing. She was quite nice. What's really in her mind? Does she wants me or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): She's probably too confused by how her boyfriend's been treating her and how bad he's made her feel to know now if she wants you or not. I was the girl in this situation a couple of years ago and the nice guy (aka you!) just supported me and said lots of things about how I didn't deserve to be treated like that and there are many much better men out there than my boyfriend. It took time, but him just being there for me and helping me see what I DID deserve (without pushing himself as that would have made me feel more confused, though he did let me know he cared). Eventually I was able to get the strength to break up with my boyfriend and some time after that, once I'd recovered myself somewhat and could figure out what I wanted, I got together with the other guy. I'm not saying this will happen for you, I'm just saying that by supporting her and helping her feel good about herself again with no pressure or demands stemming from you liking her, you'll have the best chance of getting the outcome you want.
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