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writes:So I know this girl. And shes really, really talented. and attractive. charismatic. And, even though she had some obvious red signs, I thought we clicked and became friends. Eventually this turned into something more and unexpected. I got to know her, and looked past her cheating history and lies. We didn't become a couple. Though... we ended up having sex, and I ended up feeling a lot more than I bargined for. Now, she would always spit bullshit a me about how amazing I was, dumb stuff about wanting to be together. But, I'm no fool to that sort of thing and knew she was saying it to other people. The day after we slept together, she got a new girlfriend. And than tried to sleep with my best friend. And when my best friend told her she couldn't do that to me, she put a fucking smilee face. I should hate the gal right? But, I need her. As a friend. She's a horrible, horrible girlfriend but deep down I hope theres some truth in the girl she protrayed to me. I honestly care about her as a person and shes someone right now I need in my life- but; I have no idea who she really is and have caught her lying still. I can't get over this girl. I've no chance with her; and I hate the fact that I can't just let her go. I tried being platonic, but still...this is driving me nuts.
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reader, openmind +, writes (11 November 2009):
AWWWWWWWWWWW great im so happy to hear that its gonna be tough but i know you can do it if things get to rough just shoot me an email im always happy to listen!!!!!1
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much openmind :). I took it to heart, and though I still miss her, I think imma continue with your advice and move on.
Thanks sooo much!
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reader, openmind +, writes (30 October 2009):
Ok listen girly there is nothing you can do for this girl. I have encountered so many of these girls you are talking about. They are more than confident they are down right cocky. They are beautiful and have the power to make people hang on thier every word. Every inch of you wants to be with them even tho you already know you cant. These kinds of girls want attention and as long as you keep giving it to her then she has power over you. DO NOT hit on her anymore or even give any kind of indication that you want to be with her or that she has any affect on you. IT WILL KILL HER!!! I know and believe me when I say this I KNOW it seems impossible to get over her but it isnt. You have to stop talking to her so much and remember that no matter what she ever says to you and how many times she apoligizes later on usually way later on- with something like "why after all my bs are you still so good to me I dont deserve you" its a trick and a plot to get you hooked on her again. If your gona be out there in the world of lesbians you are going to run into alot of these girls so you gotta stay on top. You deserve better than her. She sees her self as a player and not a slut- the only thing that can change a girl like that is a taste of her own medicine she needs her heart broken. I know i may sound like a lunatic but ive been in your situation so many times and the only way to get over it is to move on even tho its so hard and find a girl who really deserves you. Hope you can learn from my advice good luck!!!
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