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writes: I've fallen in love with an engaged woman who's about to wed in a little over a month! I need your HELP!I'm 25, she's 23 and she has a son that is 3 that she had with her future husband. She's told me that they were in love once when they were younger and are being pressured into getting married by there parents.We've been going out and having a lot of fun over the last year. She tells me she wants her son to have a happy home to grow up in but she and her future husband are only getting married for there son's sake. They both are seeing other people and I'm guessing waiting for the other to call everything off (so that they don't have to be the bad guy). I'm not sure what to do, I've been friends with this girl for a long time and don't want to tell her what to do and possibly ruin our friendship. She's recently asked me if I love her and I don't know what to say... I know that I do but should I tell her how I really feel or let things happen on there own? I understand that if you love someone you let them make there own mistakes and be there for them when they need you. I feel as though no matter what I say or do that I'll be the bad guy... I wish I could change things but I don't know what to say, do or think at this point! Please tell me what you'd do if you were in my position...My Friends tell me to RUN... But you can't choose who you'll fall in love with and running away is never the answer so please give me some guidance!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (3 December 2006):
IF....and I repeat IF, everything you say is accurate, then tell her how you feel. I'm guessing by the questions she's asking you about love, she feels it too. BUT, be sure the information you're getting is ACCURATE !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): Hello, that woman is never for you, I will advice you to look for a woman you can be with and be happy with. cox love can dispoint along the line.
Think this we help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): your exactly right, you can choose who you fall in love with!
however you are in quiet a difficult situation. If you really do love this girl, and she also has feeling for you, i fell that you may as well express them to her now or never. You cant tell her what to do but you can atleast let her know how you feel or it might truly be to late. If i were in your postition, although it would take me alot of courage, i would have to tell them how i felt or i know that after they are married...its probably going to be too late and cause hard feelings. I hope this helps a little bit...
good luck xxx
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