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male
age
41-50,
*etKraken
writes:I have found the woman of my dreams...unfortunately she found my friends first. Before my girlfriend and I got together she had hooked up with several people close to my everyday life. Joe* my roommate(who is in my fraternity), Mike* my downstairs neighbor(who is also in my fraternity) and Brent* the douchy jackass that runs his mouth in all my classes. I only have 2 standards when it comes to women. 1: no kids(not ready to be a "step-dad" type. 2: no dating someone that slept with my friends. (it feels less special braggin about my girl when my friends already "tapped that ass") With my new girlfriend, standard no.2 is out the window. I love my girlfriend very much but I cant help but feel self-conscious(which Ive never felt in a relationship) everytime were all together. Its weird looking around my apartment when it is just me, Joe*,Mike* and my girl. I cant help but think "if we were all lined up and she just met us I would be the last guy she chose." cuz, actually, I was the last guy she chose. My question is "how can I let this go and try to move on from the past? or at least get by from day to day knowing that everyday Im gonna see/talk/help these people that have spent time with my girlfriends most intimate areas?
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reader, Psychology101 +, writes (17 February 2010):
I Dont know that you will ever be at peace with this. You had prior info before going into this the situation right? its one of thoes things you are going to have to over come. If you cant over come this, then you are going to have to move one. Is it importnat for you to be with her? Yes? then its importnat for you to deal with this. Remeber shes with you now. Dont compare.
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