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writes: My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 6 years. Previous to this she had been married for 16 years. Her marriage broke up because she was having an affair for about 10 years with another man. When I met her she said that she had split up with this man and that the relationship was over. However Six months into our relationship she admitted to still seeing this man and having a sexual relations with him.Because she had come clean and admitted the relationship I forgave her as she said that she had chosen to be with me and that it was over with him. Recently I discovered that she was carrying photos of this man in her handbag. The telephone bill showed that she had been in regular contact with him. I also discovered that she had been meeting with him to play tennis.When I confronted her about this she admitted that they had been in regular contact with each other over the last six years since the last incident. She claims that they are just friends. But why hide it if so??What do you think? please advise me.
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reader, distressed +, writes (19 November 2005):
Normaly a person with sexual feelings for someone (past of present)can never be just friends with them again. I'm living that situation right now. I met my fiance` 8yrs ago and was with differant men throughout the year of our "friendship" but could never get him out of my mind. Eventually we ended up together and my ex ended up heartbroken.
Personally I would explane that you aren't comfortable and would like her to stop seeing him. If she respects you she will.
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