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writes: Why is it, and what can I do? HI, I am sixteen turning 17 and the boy I am going out with (dating) is 19. He is the first person I ever been out with, and the only one I seem to really like and would ever consider to have as a first boyfriend. I am not a person to just like anyone such as, one person after the next. Before I even considered going out with him I wanted to get to know him. So we talked mostly online for about two months, and we been out with each other for about another two months. The problem which I have is not really with him, but with my mother. To me she does not really like the idea of me going out at all, maybe because this is new for her as it is me, but that’s understandable. But what gets to me is whenever I tell her/ask her if I am able to go out with this particular person, she seems to want to avoid the subject all together or come up with a way for me not being able to see him. I don’t get to see this person a lot (lets call him AX), because we both go to school, and he has work. (so only like one every 2 weeks). The problem is that I am beginning to get much close to AX.(Which is a good thing) , but I can't even get my mom to even like the idea of him. I'm trying hard to make it easier on her so I told her if she has any questions she can go ahead and ask, but she never does I am very on clear if that is a bad sign or a good one. Why is it/ how come my mother seem to avoid this situation (topic) alltogether, and what can I do to make her listen or talk to me about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2005): Well i think you are right. Your mother is avoiding the situation because it is new to her. Try to invite him to dinner with your mother so she can get to know him, if she refuses to budge then maybe use a different approach like randomly saying something nice that hes done for you in a com=nversation.(ex. if you and your mother are talking about what to wear tell her what shirt your boyfriend says he like on you or if your talking about dinner make it a point to tell her that you both adore some sort of food) making points that show you two adore each other and share things in common is key.
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