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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i dont know from where should i start...its a long story short...i love this girl and she is a tomboy.we have been together for 2 years and have always been special and supportive to each other. we are soulmates and she is a great girl to be with,caring and very understanding, down to earth nature....she talks to many guy friends but i have always been her priority and she loves me very much and has always loved me from all her heart....when we broke in between, she had a one night stand with a guy. later when i entered in her life, she told me everything and confessed about it. i am a sexually reserved person so it badly shook me from inside and i lost all respect for her. i didnt expect it from her and my behaviour became suspecting and sarcastic towards her.i forgave her but i suspected and taunted her every now and then. my behaviour was somewhere justified as she too started taking me for granted and replied to my texts only when she got time and didnt take me that seriously but she continued talking to other guys which pinched me. this in turn triggered me inside that she was a bitch(sorry for it but i hate myself for hating her im so depressed) and perhaps she didnt like my attitude and lost interest which again made me angry. so this cycle went on and on and our sweet old genuine relationship started to ruin for no obvious particular reason. it is a long distance and we got bored and tired of all this. my behaviour was highly unstable and sometimes i showed love and it turned into hatred sometimes later. she talked to me yesterday and i was missing her a lot ...i said i still have feelings for her but she didnt reply to my text for a couple of hours and directly texted me at night. she said she loves me too and asked me the reason for being so upset. i was so pissed at her careless attitude that i didnt tell her anything. i feel she wants to be with me and thinks im an emotional fool and can be easily handled. at the same time she wants to taste waters. maybe i have turned her like this, i dont knw! the status has become such that it doesnt make any sense and impact on her even if i say i love her genuinely because she has grown tired of all this i guess. but i know deep inside she has feelings for me i am sure about it.we talked regularly but i havent texted her since 2 days because i feel she has been taking me for granted. should i go back to her or leave her for some time ? please advise...thanks for the time
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 I think both of you just ain't ready for a longterm relationship. You both seem to play games on the level "he/she should say it first". Cute for teens, but teen relationships rarely last.
A lot of people, especially young people have trouble figuring out what they want. They may or may not be in love but the realization that it is for real and that you can't just take it for granted while you keep playing.
The whole "break" thing, is a good sign you are to young. Would you expect a break from your job? From paying the bills? No.
It might be time to start to accept that things have simply been messed up by the both of you. That you both need to grow up a bit.
Or put it more simple, I think you two are not as in love as you want to think.
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