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writes:Foremost, I am a male and obviously can't ask friends for relationship advice if it doesn't apply to me "getting laid". A girl recently got in touch with me out of the blue and I was wondering if she may be interested in me. Ok, here's the sich. I was really good friends with her in high school, best friends, and yes I know that was before I knew what a friend zone was. She has admittedly told me that I was attractive, without alcohol being involved. We have never had sex... yet. I one day decided to tell her how I felt and it completely ruined the relationship. Since then I have completely been hesitant to being friends with girls, even the ones that I have dated. I feel that this lack of trust and ability to friend girls has hindered the emotional aspect of relationships, and trust me I here about it all the time. Anyway, four years later I'm about to graduate from college at home visiting and she starts texting me. I am always making stuff up for excuses to not hang out with her. I am starting to get anxiety attacks just like in high school. They are so bad that I am getting physically sick! What should I do? Should I hang out with her and retry this whole thing? Does she just want another friendship or is she interested in me? I've never been able to not read a situation this bad in my life. The texts are hard to judge the mood and emotion behind them. I'm afraid to talk because I don't usually lie and frankly I'm terrible at it. I'm only going to be in town for the summer then I am going back for grad school. I've never been more scared of a hundred twenty pound girl in all my life! Thanks for your help, much appreciated.
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reader, Lorenn.  +, writes (8 January 2010):
Follow your heart. isn't that the key to most things? Personally i would be rather annoyed that she texts all this time later. And i'd confront her asking 'why now, why has it took you so long for you to text just because it's convenient for you?' because we all know that it shouldn't be the case. i don't think you should lose faith and trust in speaking and bonding with other females, simply because we all develop feelings for best friends. i usually tell myself that 'best friends won't stay best friends for long' i.e guy and girl. i think you did the correct thing when telling her you had feelings for her. You risked and hoped that it could be much better than friendship. although her feelings wern't mutual. But you definately need to question her about why she's suddenly decided to text now. i wish you luck.
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