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writes:OK, there's this girl that i really like and over the past few weeks I've been getting to know her pretty good. We talk all the time and hang out when ever possible and I have such an amazing! time when were together. To be honest it seems that she has a great! time also when were together which makes me feel so good, I cant even explain the feeling. Anyways over the past few weeks of talking she has told me up front that she isn't ready for a serious relationship right now, which i completely understand from some past issues which i don't really want to get into, but over the same few weeks i have also opened up to her, letting her know that i am really interested in her and could see us being more then friends. There was never a yes or now answer from her so to me it seems as if she is interested in me, just not on a serious level at this time, because of those issues and may i add the fact that it has only been a few weeks that we've really known each other. Fast forwarding to just the other day, she really wanted to hang out with me as she had some free time, so we went indoor ice skating followed by lunch before we went our separate ways. later that night approx six hours later she sends me a text message saying that she had a great time with me and that she just wanted to let me know that she was still thinking about it. So even tho its kinda obvious that text was a good thing, I'm just curious as to what other females might think? and if you were to send something like that to a guy after spending time with him, is there a deeper meaning to a text like that? Thanks in advance to any and all responses...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): No there's no deeper meaning to her text, girls text like that, it was merely a thanks although there are undertones that she likes your interest in her and wants to keep you interested in her.
Look the best way to approach this in my opinion is to read nothing into anything she says or does, no matter how close you get unless she straight out says she is interested in you too or you end up moving on to sexual relationship.
She's giving you just enough so that you will be interested in her but not enough that she can't turn around and say you read her intentions wrong.
She could be interested in you and she could have her reasons for not wanting to get into anything right now but she has made it very clear not to expect anything like that from her so you have to do your best to try not to read into the things she does as signs she's ready, she will make it clear when that is the case, it will be very apparent.
Be careful with this, she might just like the attention you give her and not really have any feelings for you that way, you're both adults dude, you need to ask her straight out whether she fancies you or not, she'll already know whether she is attracted to you so it's not a hard question to answer if she does, if she's evasive about it then that in itself is an answer.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (8 January 2010):
As far as a deeper meaning to the actual text, I would say no. But the way she's acting I think would show that she either doesn't know what she wants or she's playing games. If it's a she doesn't know what she wants situation, it may just be that it's too soon and she'd like to get to know you better before thinking of anything serious. If she's just playing games, then it's her way of trying to control you by saying she doesn't want a relationship to see if you'll continue to pursue her anyway.
Anyway, I definitely think she likes you. So just take it easy for now--continue going out etc., but I wouldn't bring up anymore relationship talk for a little bit.
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