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writes:Cupids,I have recently been introduced to a potential friend, i found her to be a nice girl but i couldn't quite figure her out and felt she was telling a lot of 'tall tales'She went on starting to twitch when i was talking to her and she said is was her epilepsy playing up so she took her medication, the thing that i can't understand tho is she said that she had got epilepsy from when she was younger and her drink had been spiked! Is this possible?I don't really want to get any closer with her because i don't really want the responsibility of looking after her 24/7 as i have a family of my own to take care of! Any advice would be grandThanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Aha! Well, the fact that your other halves are in the Army sheds a whole different light on the whole thing.
I'd guess she's feeling extremely isolated and lonely and is subconsciously trying to attract anyone as a friend, even by what may possibly appear to be ridiculous actions and statements.
You don't have to look after her 24/7, but why not ask her round for coffee one morning for a friendly chat - and if she invites you round to her place accept the invitation. It's very easy in your situation to become isolated, and my guess is that's what's happened to this potential friend of yours. Be as kind to her as you would like her to be to you. If this is an act she's putting up, she may soon drop it when there's no longer a need for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFemale Anon....
No i don't know much about epilepsy but army life is very tight knit and i know she doesnt drive, has a child and is having a divorce at the moement and i am not wanting the responsibility of whilst her b/f & my hubby are fighting a war taking care of her and her 'tall tales' whilst trying to keep it together for my kids!
I was simply asking about the causes of her condition as i a wary of this person becoming a close friend!
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (26 March 2008):
You could also try and find out what her "medication" is. Anti-epileptic meds are easily googled.
It does sound though that she may have other issues and only you can decide if you have enough capacity to deal with them.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): What? you sense she is telling tall tales but you have zero proof? you don't want the responsibility of 'taking care of her'? You just met the girl! Who said anything about taking care of her? Do you even know anything about epilepsy? I think you are putting way too much imagination into this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): I definitely think you're as well to keep her at arms length. She sounds to me like an attention seeker. To the best of my knowledge you don't get epilepsy from having your drink spiked. A bang on the head might cause it though.
Why not ask the opinion of the person who introduced you to her? They probably know her better than you.
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