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writes:me and my girl friend had a love relation for about 2 years... we used to have small fights but inside we loved each other.. i knew about her ex boy friend we had couple of fights related to him as well.. we are in love with each other in deep love.. but recently we used to fight alot and did not use to talk to each other for a week or 10 days.. but at the same time we missed each otehr adn love each other.. i abused her as well.. and she kept on behaving the way i hated even she knew it.. well that was the fight part... one day i got to know that she is going abroad for studies... my heart melted and i started talking to her.. she also did.. we again sed love u to each other.. but before that she used to fight and then she said she is fighting so that i dont get hurt when she leaves.. but my love for her melted her and we came back together... but then a fight took place again.. now it seemed like she is least bothered about me..she did not use to call me up.. reply to my msgs.. and all even before the days she left she did not come to meet me.. or talk to me alot she used to say she is busy in work.. she always used to give reason that the long fite we had the long fite we had but before leaving every thing seemed fine..after she left.. we were totally out of touch.. as if she is avoiding me.. then i tried hacking her account and got to know that 3-4 months back she used to talk to her ex boy frend that how was i behaving to her..and she used to share our personal talks with him also got to know that there was some girl who told her not to talk to me that is wut i got from those emails and messsages.. and then also i got to know that she she is loving other guy now.. like wut? in 7 days u start loving someone? or is it some kind of revenge.. im depressed rite now.. so plz tell me.. is it some kinda drama she is doing? to forget me or she is really in love. this information i sum up thru the situation
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): she doesnt wanna remain in contact with me..though she was fine before leaving for foreign.. things seemed normal...
is she doin it to make me feel bad? taking revenge? or taking out her frustration
can some one get that deeply hurt in a relation that she does such things in obsession or in sadness
or is she in love with someone really? when she knows that guy only for about 15 days?
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reader, rcn  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 You'd abuse her? That's bad....If you claim to love her, that's how you treat her, not the opposite. She'd act the way you hated. Of course, she knew it'd bother you. What you do is not let it, then she would have no reason to behave that way.
Leading up to your question. You've heard of "rebound relationships." That's what this sounds like. The two of you not being together can create a void in her way of being, where she finds someone to fill what she's missing.
So many are searching for that special one. (Which doesn't include abuse) The problem is the view of what they are searching for and the importance placed on finding it. Reasons being, if you desire what you don't have then happiness can't be found by filling the void. What's actually missing is within their sense of self.
You two definately have communication issues. If you do get back together, or with someone else, work on it. Don't go time without talking, and ignoring eachother. Don't argue and yell, and try to see the issue from the other persons view. Just because you don't agree doesn't mean your right or their right. It only means you see it in a different way.
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