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*T711
writes:My children's father and I got back together at the end of January 07. We have a 10 and 8 year old. He was dating/sleeping with this girl for about 5 months..Nothing serious at all..He basically would go over her house late night. She really feels they had something special. The thing is she works for the same company he does. They don't see each other unless they have national/regional conferences. He has told her to not call or text him (with me listening) She won't stop though. She calls/texts every 3 weeks(when she hears something that he has done work related or after a conference). This last time I picked up his phone and she hung up. She was texting him as well..so when she called and heard my voice, she wrote me this lame text on how she was calling him at 1am for directions. He shows me every text she sends and I know for certain he does not text her back. He has been pretty passive with this situation because he does not want her to go around and bash him within the company. He feels because he has told her to not call or text that he has done his part. She is disrespecting our relationship and he has two big conferences coming up. I do trust him and I honestly am not worried about him cheating. What I don't like is that she won't stop calling or texting even though he tells her not to. She even asks him to come over after the conferences. Which of course he comes home to me, but I don't like that he doesn't get angry with her for thinking he would cheat on me. He has always begged to be back with me for years. Telling everyone that he is still in love with me. Our relationship is going good besides this one thing... In her head he is only back with me for the children.. I do hold him responsible as well for this because I think he can be a little more rude to her about this situation because I feel like he is choosing not to hurt her feelings/keep his reputation clean over hurting mine... I don't ever want him to look bad but I do believe there is a classy way of telling someone to back off without being a jerk. Half of me is irritated at him and the other at her...I refuse to live my life with this girl continuing to call..she is not getting it..(changing his number is not an option)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Well if he can't then he must certainly stop all contact with her maybe she will give up as long as she gets NO RESPONSE from him.
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reader, TT711 +, writes (30 May 2007):
TT711 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe can't change his phone number because it is a company cell phone.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 May 2007):
If he doesn't respond to her texts and doesn't take her calls then she'll give it up sooner or later. But if he's giving her the impression that there's hope she will keep up with this nonsense. I really think he should change his phone number, why won't he?
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reader, DV1 +, writes (29 May 2007):
 If it comes to it, get a number change... On most new phones, there is also a block feature...
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